My MIL wont shut up about my daughters eyes

MIL is upset because my daughter doesnt have colored eyes and needs to mention it everytime we see them. For context, my husband has blue eyes and my son has blue eyes. I have hazel eyes and my daughter has dark hazel eyes, almost brown.
My daughter will be 2 yrs old in a couple weeks. Since the day she was born, MIL has been obsessed with the fact that she doesnt have blue or green eyes. She bring her to the light to see if she can see some color. She jokes and says theyre starting to become greenish blue i see it.

Today we went over for lunch, she said: its crazy how she got the dark eyes gene. But she said it in a condescending, pitiful way, as if my daughter is not as pretty because her eyes are brown.

She is also so sensitive and a drama queen, if i say something she will start acting as a victim. So i just shut up, but it really bothers me that she sees my daughter as less because of her eye color.

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Is there any way to keep your daughter away from her. I would he afraid my daughter would think something is wrong with her because your bitchy mils comments. Has your husband said anything to her? Because he needs to be the one to say something because those comments are gross and honeatly not necessary. I'm angry for you...

Shut it down.

Let her know something like "i know you love her and I am sure you dont mean anything ill but respectfully I need you to stop discussing her eyes. Her eyes are a beautiful brown and when you speak about her eyes...idk if you realize it but you speak on them as if they aren't as beautiful because theyre "just brown" and that isnt true and I dont want her to start looking at her eyes and wishing she had a different color because the ppl closest to her are making her feel less than. I hope you understand." And if she doesnt then oh fucking well. If she makes a comment moving forward then you pack it up and leave.

It’s not crazy. Sounds like she got those eyes from you. Just say that to her and tell her her eyes are beautiful. Stand up for your daughter

in front of your mil i would turn to the husband and say… Shes Giving Me Hitler Vibes. I bet you she will never mention it again.

Sometimes people are desperate for the child to be resemble them lol. I have blue eyes, so do both my parents, most of my siblings, 3 of my grandparents and when my son was younger his eyes were quite blue (now turned green) and my FIL looked at him and said “I don’t know where he gets his blue eyes from?!” As my partners family all have brown eyes, I said I don’t know probably his entire maternal bloodline😅

My son has really curly hair, just like mine when I was little and my partners. FIL was obsessed with telling me he gets that from him, I’d always say “oh yeah, it looks just like mine when I was younger too”, one day he actually brought me a photo and said “see see I told you he gets it from me”🫠 I don’t deny they have no resemblance, he is his grandfather and my son looks so much like his own dad but it also seems relatively plausible that a child could possibly inherit some genes from their mother 😅😅

I don't know why people care so much about the appearance of children who aren't theirs. Definitely shut it down when she says that around your daughter, as your daughter may begin to get insecure about it.

Honestly though, brown eyes are gorgeous. Especially when they are usually dark, but then they get that golden shimmer in the sun. That's how my husband's eyes are and I absolutely love them.

Your daughter is not less beautiful just because she has darker eyes. Beauty is subjective anyway. We were all made as we were meant to be, and we're all beautiful in our own ways.

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