I don’t know what to do
I’ve just found out I’m 4 weeks pregnant with our second baby. It was planned and my partner and I talked about it at length before deciding to try. By the time this baby arrives our 1st would be approaching his 2nd birthday so it’s quite a nice age gap. Despite having agreed it’s the right time I’ve now found myself having cold feet and questioning whether we do actually go ahead with this pregnancy☹️ My worries are money, space in our house as it’s much smaller than we realised (we’ve only just bought it so can’t sell), going from 1-2 and the impact on our 1st & other people’s opinions. Even if we waited longer our situation with the house wouldn’t have changed and we won’t have saved much money either. I feel so uncertain and not at all excited like I thought I’d be. I don’t know what to do or what to do decide. I know that I’m definitely not done at 1 and I really would love a 2nd but surely it should feel easier than this 😭
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Personally if you wait to afford kids most people would never have them
It’s not about how much money you save, it’s more about your position in life / work you ideally want a good paid job !
I think it’s a normal thing to worry and doubt. With my child I wanted to have fur 7 years and begged my husband to have children but he didn’t really want due to work, money and so on. When I got pregnant I was exited but imediatly got cold feet as I realised my mat pay would be so much worse compared to what I was thinking. Now my baby is the apple of my life and I make it work financially. It happens to the best of us. Waiting for a perfect time in life, career or financial situation will mean we will never be ready. You can look for people in similar situations and ask how they make it work and get some ideas.
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