How do I come to terms with having no more children?
My partner has point blank said that he doesn’t want anymore children. We have two kids (2yo boy and a 5mo girl). He’s said if we’d had two boys he would’ve probably tried for a girl, but since we have one of each he doesn’t want to have anymore.
How do I come to terms with this?
I’ve always wanted 3 children. I’ve always had it in my head that I’ll have 3 kids and told him this from day one. But, he’s very clear he doesn’t want anymore.
I love my children endlessly and always will. I’m just worried that I won’t be able to come to terms with not having anymore 🤷♀️
Has anyone been through this before?
Any advice?
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I completely get where you’re coming from because I’m actually in a similar position myself. I’ve always imagined having a certain number of children, so I understand that it’s not about loving the children you already have any less, it’s about letting go of the future you pictured for yourself.
I think it’s okay to acknowledge that you’re grieving that. A lot of people focus on the practical side of “two is enough” and forget that sometimes you’re mourning a future you’d imagined for years.
I don’t think either person is necessarily wrong. You’re not wrong for wanting another baby, and he’s not wrong for feeling done. Unfortunately, there isn’t really a compromise when it comes to having another child, which is what makes it so painful.
Be kind to yourself. Your youngest is only 5 months old too, and family plans don’t always look the same a few years down the line as they do in the thick of babies and sleepless nights x
I think it’s not helped that my little girl is just growing so so quickly and absolutely sailing through her milestones. It feels like she just hasn’t been a baby for 2 seconds!
So to think that I’m never going to experience that first sight of my babies face, that first cuddle, that first night, the newborn bubble, the first smile etc again… it’s just hard 🥺x
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