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Venting (judge free)

Need opinions - super long post I'm sorry :(

To start my husband LO and i are staying at my parents house until our house renovations are complete. My step dad and I have typically had a good relationship after I became an adult. On Monday we got into probably the worst argument we have ever gotten into. It started when I was trying to work on something on the computer and I was frustrated because my computer was running sooo slow. So I made the comment omg im going to beat the crap out of you. My child came and hit the computer and I asked her not to. He came storming in grabbed my child and when he got to the door he turned and in the rudest tone said "you need to learn to ask for help" then walked to their room. I kind of stood there confused as hell as to what happened. But the way he said that just grossed me out. Who the hell do you think you are talking to me like that and then walking off with my child. So I came out and asked my mom to grab my child from him because I dont feel comfortable him thinking it's OK for him to talk to me that way. He came storming out and said something about calling cps. Excuse the f out of me? So i immediately went off on him and he started saying how im a horrible mom and how she deserves better. I looked at him and kinda laughed because sir are you kidding me? I told him that's funny because all he has ever done was sit on his computer whenever he's home. He said well that's hell of a lot better then you. I dont remember what I responded with but he said he was going to call 911 and that i need to grow up (mind you he knows how i feel about that statement so he said it to hurt me). Lol ok... he ended up going to the living room stomping around and grabbing all his things and crying about well we are gonna get what we want ans went out to the trailer. Lol so im the only one who needs to grow up? so i went and put on my shoes. Mind you my mom stood there the entire time and didn't say anything. The next day my mom said that she is hoping we can move past it and i asked her how can i get past someone calling me a horrible mom and that he was going to call cps on me. And she said oh you know he didn't mean it. I'm like that makes it worse. I said that lying to hurt someone is a horrendous thing to do. She said its normal everyone does it. That just irritated me. all she keeps saying is that we both said things that were horrible. Although I dont remember saying anything that would be a lie or really that was that hurtful. I love my step dad he normally is a great guy. I dont think i have ever had someone hurt my feelings so bad. He apparently is ready to make up but at this point idk if i want him in my life. I now feel like every little thing is going to be questioned. My husband last night kept telling our child to stop kicking our dog and she wouldn't so out of frustration slapped his leg and my step-dad came to check. Like wtf? When he realized my dauggter was sitting on the bed next to my husband he walked away. How can I just move past that? My mom doesn't want us to talk about it, she just wants us to move on. But my thinking is if he did lie how horrible that he would say something like that to me to hurt me especially because he knows i feel like a horrible mom. But if he truly feels that way im just hurt that thats how he sees me in such a horrible light. Yes, unfortunately my family is extremely emotionally immature and as for me im working on myself because I do not want my daughter to be anything like me. I have never and will never hurt my child. I am so hurt and at this point just want to cut him off once we can move back into our house. Could you just get over someone making those comments to you? The same someone who threatened to call cps on you? I'm still confused as to why he even did what he did. I honestly thought so highly of my step-dad so for him to do what he did hurt really bad.

If you got this far thank you!!! I know it's super long. Please let me know what you would do.