Low libido and porn
My husband of 14 years and I have been dealing with my low libido that has gradually gotten worse this past year. In the past 4 months we've only had sex twice. He has been so patient with me and is trying to understand it is a hormone thing and nothing to do with how I feel about him. He knows my endless struggles with PCOS, infertility and now perimenopause. My body and my hormones have never been on the same page. I recently found out that he has turned to porn to cope with no sex. Nothing he's paying for just free stuff on like pornhub. In the past, before kids, we enjoyed watching them together and I always said in the past it wouldn't bother me. But oh boy did it bother me this time. I am already struggling with how I feel about myself and my body not cooperating with me. It just hit me big time. Much more than I thought it would. I did talk to him about it and he felt terrible that it made me feel sad. Am I being unreasonable though? Should I give him "permission" so he doesn't feel like he has to hide it? How do you feel about your partner watching porn?
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I don’t care about porn as long as he’s not paying for it and/or communicating with anyone. But that’s MY boundary with it and it’s okay for you to have a different one. I know you probably don’t want to if you’re struggling with your self confidence, but maybe you could send him pictures/videos of yourself to use instead? Use it as an excuse to do some self care and feel good about yourself for a bit!
This sounds like my situation 😞 I'm trying to not get mad about him doing it because I know we're not having sex often...but I just can't help but still be upset about it...if you ever want to chat I'm here...
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