am i overreacting or is this weird? friend pretending to look pregnant.
i am currently 11 weeks pregnant, i’ve tried to keep it a secret from my family but my coworkers and some friends have already figured out what’s going on.
that being said one of my co workers is a friend i grew up with and recently reconnected with 2 years ago when we became co workers. this friend has gone through a divorce and is currently dating a guy overseas so she never sees him. i am 29 and she is about to be 29 so i understand that she feels a little behind compared to everyone else. this past year i got engaged and pregnant with my first and we are just at two different points in our lives. i try to avoid talking about these big life changes because i know it makes her feel some type of way.
this friend of mine takes pride in her body. she works out multiple times a week and eats as clean as possible so having abs and a flat stomach is really important to her.
well over the weekend she posted on instagram a picture of her belly hanging out and if people didn’t read the caption it would look like she’s showing off her 3 month belly saying “this is me after eating all this food, i would look so cute pregnant but until then give me a bikini and a shot of tequila”.
idk im just trying to see if im freaking out about this i instantly felt weird when i saw it. she’s already told me she’s jealous of these little things about me and she’s said that she wishes we were pregnant at the same time so we can take these pictures together which i didn’t think too much about. but after seeing her basically pretend to be pregnant was just so strange to me. i’ve talked to my sister and my fiance about it but they both said she’s extremely jealous. i just don’t know how to approach the situation or even if i should but it’s giving “the stolen baby” on netflix if yall watched it. i’m trying to protect my peace during this time but it’s just getting strange. like i’m not even showing yet and im so excited to finally see the bump but seeing your friend pretending to have a bump is a little jarring.
please tell me if im overreacting or if not how i should speak to her about this.
thank you!
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If I was struggling to get pregnant or didn’t have a long lasting relationship where I could try for a baby or whatever else and then I found out my friend was pregnant, I would be absolutely over the moon for them!! I would be ecstatic that someone I’m close with is getting to have the joy of pregnancy and motherhood. I’d probably feel a bit disheartened that I wasn’t pregnant myself and maybe a bit jealous. But it would in no way impact me so much that I feel the need for it to impact my friends feelings. Because your friend being like that clearly is impacting how you feel. You shouldn’t be having to keep quiet and down low about big life achievements to friends because you’re worried about what they might think or how they might feel. A true friend should be celebrating alongside side you, regardless of how sad they might be that they aren’t at the same point in life as you.
I would be a little weirded out by this no lie...but if its weirding you our maybe limit your contact with her. I know your coworkers and former friends but just limit interactions to just work. If it gets any worse like showing up with a belly or something maybe take it to HR.
Trust your gut. Lifetime is full of movies like this that end terribly too
I wouldn’t say jealous. Maybe just a “what if “ moment for her .. like seeing someone around her pregnant has her thinking about how it would be for if she was pregnant as well ? Idk
I would be annoyed by her post though . The thought of being pregnant is one thing but being delusional with the post is another
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