Husband hates being a dad
My husband and I had our first baby 11 months ago. I was never keen on having kids while my husband was open to the idea but now I feel like the tables have turned. My husband will rather do anything else than spend time with our baby boy. He gives him a little 5 min cuddle when he comes back from work and a small cuddle before he leaves but that's about it. The worse thing is that our baby seems to have noticed it and no longer gets excited about my husband coming home and will rather crawl to me. Sleep is also a battle. Baby is going through regression and will only settle if rocked, loved on or co-sleeping. My husband has no patience for it and he gets angry when the baby doesn't just want to fall asleep on his own. Last night I was still cleaning the kitchen till midnight when the baby woke up screaming. My husband just let him cry and scream until I came saying that he wanted to see if our baby can self-soothe. If I'm being honest it starts to piss me off and my heart breaks for our baby because I just want him to be loved by his dad. It makes me resent him. Anyone else going through something like this?
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Are you sure he hates it? Have you discussed it? I don't think letting a baby cry means you hate your child. It's how my generation were brought up....
It is sad he only spends a few minutes with the baby a day though and must feel a lot on you. I totally get why you want dad to be excited to see baby when he gets home with a fresh wave of energy.
Is it possible he is finding the baby phase harder than he expected but he might prefer other stages, or if and when you are both working? Is he awkward, did he have a happy childhood, does he know what to do with the baby? Talk to him with an open mind perhaps?
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