How is everyone having sex with so little time?

Honestly, having a newborn/baby under 1 is already challenging specially with the nights where the baby is fighting sleep…how is everyone here finding the time to have sex? Also with bigger wake windows and no family support around to watch the baby!!

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Lol its some days I don't want to .. like weekends I'll wake up around 6 or 7 am or before the kids get up and do it to my SO (it boost his energy and gets him going) so he starts the mornings off with the kids and I get rest lol. If its like a random day we just get it in anyway possible. If the kids are in the living room on screen time or nap time .

This is my second baby, and we've consciously made an effort to make time for each other in the evening. The kids go to bed between 7 and 8, so we then spend an hour together usually resulting in sex because we both have high sex drives 🙈😅 our family support is 1.5hours drive away, so I completely get not always having support/childcare. You definitely both have to try and make the time and put in the effort if you want it

It gets a lot easier as they get older!

No one is having sex, this is why we are here

We would when the kids were in school. Hubby worked from him so his lunch break. Was our time. But he changed career and works in a school so we been a few months and now the kids are home for the summer too so we need to find time

Literally have been pondering this since I hit my 6 week postpartum mark. I’m 10 weeks PP now and we still haven’t been able to. Baby sleeps in our room and as soon as we put him down for the night my husband passes out. Even if he didn’t immediately pass out obvs I don’t feel comfortable doing it with him in the room so we’d have to go in the guest room and the whole time I’d just be worried about him waking up (since he hates his bassinet).

During the day he works and my baby literally won’t nap anywhere but on one of us so the couple hours between when he gets home and bedtime routine is also not an option.

To add, absolutely no shade on my husband because when our LO goes to sleep at night I just want to pass out too, I just can’t fall asleep at the drop of a hat like he can.

When and how are we going to be intimate again?!?

None of the options apply, but sex is very important to us regardless of what’s going on it seems so we make it happen often lol. We have a 3 and 7 month old.

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I have posted recently about my baby who just doesn’t like to sleep and having an issue with 4am wake ups. People suggested putting to bed later however nothing is changing. I’m exhausted and don’t know what else to do. Why do I have a baby that just doesn’t sleep

Such a bad sleeper! I Can’t take it anymore

My daughter has never been a great sleeper, but recently it feels especially unpredictable and exhausting. For example, yesterday she woke up at 5:30am but only had a 30minute nap at 10am and then stayed awake until 7:45pm.
I tried offering another chance for a short nap later in the day, but she wasn’t interested. We had a busy family day and she was really happy, so I expected her to be exhausted by bedtime and have a good nights sleep. However she was still up multiple times and was very difficult to settle and took over an hour to go back to sleep. This morning she woke at 4:45am, clearly still tired and irritable, but unable to go back to sleep.
It feels like no matter how active or calm her day is, or how tired she appears, her sleep doesn’t follow a consistent pattern. On the other hand, there are days when she has a two-hour lunchtime nap and a very relaxed schedule, but the outcome is the same. She still wakes multiple times overnight and often takes a long time to resettle.
I’ve tried tracking her sleep to identify patterns, but nothing seems to make sense. I’ve also tried a more flexible “go with the flow” approach, letting her sleep whenever and wherever she needs it, but that hasn’t helped either.
My husband is keen to try for another baby, but I’m hesitant because I can’t imagine managing pregnancy alongside such broken sleep. We do support each other through the nights and take turns where we can, but it still feels very draining.

He’ll things feel worse more than ever

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Is it a woman's duty to have sex with their partner no matter how she feels and to even put her babies 2nd just to please him?

Even if she is post-partum, the default parent, doing everything around the house or maybe not feeling up to it... Should her duty be to have sex? Otherwise he has a "right" to go elsewhere for it or a "right" to treat her unfairly if doesn't? Also should the babies/children come last just to fulfill this "duty"?

Should I be getting up more when baby wriggles and fusses?

Baby and I are co-sleeping, and he has a lot of wind at the minute. So throughout the second half of the night he’s always wriggling, grunting and fussing a lot.

I wake up when he does this and it’s often hard to tell if he’s asleep or not. Last night one time I turned the light on, clocked his eyes were still closed so turned it back off. What I tend to do is just put a hand on his chest. Sometimes he calms back to stillness, sometimes he carries on wriggling but still seems to be asleep.

Last night this was happening for about 3 hours straight and I’m wondering if I should have woken him up, winded him and cuddled him. Was he unhappy for all that time? I think he was asleep for most of it. But I just feel like I was neglecting him with my approach.