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This man is TESTING me

I need some honest mom advice because I’m trying really hard to handle this maturely and not react emotionally.

My child’s dad and I are newly separated and trying to figure out co-parenting without a court order in place yet. I’ve been making an effort to offer him time with our baby, but I don’t want to feel like I’m responsible for arranging and managing his relationship with her either.

Yesterday, I asked him twice what time he wanted to see her today and how long he planned to keep her. Both times, he avoided giving me an actual time and instead started talking about things I’m working on for my business. He never circled back or confirmed any plans.

There’s also another woman involved who is partially responsible for our falling apart, and keeps watching my business page and social media, and while part of me wants to address it, I know reacting probably won’t help anything. I’m genuinely looking for advice from moms who have dealt with something similar.

Do I ask him again this morning what time he wants her, or do I leave it alone and let him reach out if he actually wants to make a plan? I never want it to look like I’m keeping her from him, but I also don’t feel like I should have to repeatedly chase him down to spend time with his own child. However, what scares me is any time that I don’t do exactly what he wants he immediately threatens court. We’ve been separated for two months and he’s only seen her one time. That I haven’t been right there on top of them. And me staying there isn’t my choice. I do try and leave and go somewhere and he’ll be like, but I need your help taking care of the baby.