Going back to work

I go back to work today and I’m so anxious and nervous my husband thinks it’s silly for me to feel this way since his been working and I’m not worried about whos watching the baby since he will be home but I just don’t know why I feel like this I need words of encouragement or something to help me get through today 😪😓

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I am a firm believer that God created a woman to want to protect their children. It is great that your husband is able to stay home and the fact that you were able to provide is fantastic! I personally could not do it. Because of that, I gotta stay at home Jon working in sales. If you would like PM because I don’t want people to think that I’m soliciting;) that I can tell you what I do and you can see if you would like to try it as you’re working. Because it is something that you can start on the side and it can grow into something more. The woman that I work under is making over 20,000 a month. Now I am nowhere near that, but I just started a month ago.

Totally relatable. I feel the same even if my baby is in another room with his father/grand parents. Not that I dont trust them, but its just that staying away feels weird..

Completely understand! My job is literally a minute around the corner from my house - I work part time from home and go in part time. He stays home with my husband when my husband is home.
We've been doing this for 5 weeks now and Im still constantly checking the cameras and tracking app.

I 100% trust my husband - one of the main reasons I married him is because I know he was going to be an amazing father. But its still my brain constantly saying "where's the baby? Is he eating? Is he sleeping?"

It a biological response.

I will tell you though, the few hours I do get at work alone, to have adult conversations and use my brain in a different way - helps me be able to be a more focused and attentive mom when Im with him.

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Husband left 8mo. unattended in high chair at hotel breakfast

Husband went to hotel breakfast buffet with our 8 month old a few minutes to get set up. When I walked in I saw my husband on his own getting some fruit.

Our baby was strapped in the high chair about 10m across the room from him. When my husband walked over I said “caught you, you left our baby unattended in the high chair”.

My husband then immediately got quiet, claimed he wasn’t hungry anymore and was generally in a bad mood. I said “why aren’t you hungry anymore? Is it because I called you out on leaving our baby alone?”

He then stormed off and said “good luck with breakfast”, before sending a flurry of angry texts saying he did nothing wrong, he’s a great dad, and I treat him like a fucking child, telling him off like I’m his mum. He said “our baby has never even looked close to falling out”, to which I responded “it only takes two seconds”.

Husband now not talking to me and our last day on holiday is ruined.

Context: the high chair is an ikea one with only a 3 point harness.

I am right to be annoyed?

Me and my husband have a nearly 3 year old and a 4 month old
The only day we get as a family is a Saturday because every Sunday is taken up with him at golf. He promised when we had our second he would do it every other weekend. That happened for aboir a month then back to old habits.
I never tell him he can't go but I will make it obvious I am not impressed every week. Now my son is old enough to be upset when daddy goes off to golf its becoming hard.
Am I right in being annoyed or shall I just let him get on with it? I don't want to stop him doing things he enjoys, it makes him happy. I think even if I tried to stop him he'd still go.

I don’t identify with my kids names.

Has anyone else felt like this after giving your children names outside their culture and also giving them your husbands last name? I think about it daily and it really upsets me.

My husband says I’m toxic

He told me I’m toxic and I’m poisoning our relationship because I only want to have sex when he screams at me about how I never give it to him. I told him that coercion, and maybe if he didn’t get so angry every time I said no, I’d want to more often. I told him this makes him the toxic one. He says with everything he does for me and the family, the least I can do is lay on my back without complaining. I told him it needs to be something we both want, and he said we only do it when I want… I said no, because he also wants it when I do, and there have been times I’ve initiated and he said no and I respected that. I said if anything, we do it more when he wants because he’s not wrong about me giving in when he yells at me. He says he shouldn’t have to yell at me to get taken care of properly, and that I’m failing him as a wife. I told him he sounds ridiculous and he’s the one being toxic, to which he flipped out with “I’m always the problem” and I told him yeah, he is always the problem. I’m not perfect, but I spend a lot of time fixing what he breaks. He ended up telling me if we didn’t have sex last night then he was divorcing me. I told him I wasn’t doing it, and that I agreed maybe a divorce is best if sex is really the only things he sees me for. He left before I woke up this morning. I haven’t even tried to contact him. I’m still just so… dumbfounded?? Like the actual fuck?

Greek yoghurt

What Greek yoghurt is everyone using? (uk)
I can only seem to find Greek style yoghurt, is this ok ? Is it pretty much the same thing ?

WWYD. Would this bother you?

I have a friend who is always checking out what we do, what we buy, how we do this or that, etc... When she comes to our home she mentions how nice this, how nice that, asks where we buy stuff, mentions how we “don't settle for regular things”. Every single time.

Comments about our shelves, towels, napkins, tablecloth, chairs, clothes, toys, plants, bag, mats, water bottles, Keychain, anything...

At the beginning I didn't think anything about it, I thought it was her way of giving a compliment. But after making the same comments every time we meet, it is a bit much and it feels like I am being scrutinized.

After we visit my family she asks my toddler - not me- how big is my parents house, how many rooms... I thought that was so weird and inappropriate. I am starting to feel she is getting kind of privy to our life and a bit obsessed.

Later I started noticing she would try to copy the same things. Again, at the beginning it didn't bother me, but after a while I found it weird she would want to buy the same things and I feel it is not normal.

I know it is not the end of the world but it has made me want to avoid her.