Family making me feel bad
I’m 20 weeks along and I’m so excited to be having this baby but I’m kinda hating being pregnant. I had a rough first trimester where I couldn’t keep any food or drink down, I ended up loosing weight. I’m now able to eat and drink again but I’m so picky with what I eat, some days all I can eat is Cheerios. My mum has been amazing through this pregnancy apart from her comments about my weight. She kept telling me how good I was looking when I was basically starving and now she keeps reminding me that if I keep eating like cr*p it will just be more weight to lose after baby gets here, I’m just happy that I can eat at all. Since my first trimester I’ve also felt very weak and my brother (who I flat share with) keeps making me feel guilty for not doing as much around the flat as I used to. Before being pregnant I was the only one doing any of the cleaning or shopping and now I’m exhausted from being on my feet for a few minutes. I already feel crappy about my weight (I’ve always been plus sized) and I feel guilty and helpless at how little I can do on my own. My boyfriend keeps telling me to keep eating at be happy that I can at least stomach anything and that I need the rest so I should take it easy and just ignore them, but it still gets to me.
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It’s not easy to ignore negativity at anytime but especially when pregnant. If you can, be selfish. Tell them keep their negativity to themselves or you’ll take space. This is a crucial time for self care- who cares about the baby weight. Your body will be beautiful even after because of what it does for you and your baby. ❤️ sending love
I feel your mom is just looking out for you but she could word it a little better. I have 4 kids it’s harder to get the weight off. I would try to eat protein though. As for your brother he needs to realize you are pregnant that you can’t do much. Tell him you are having round ligament pains . Also, your boyfriend needs to start looking into a place for you and him. You can’t be at your brother’s house with a newborn baby and a boyfriend. He needs to step up and start taking care of y’all.
I complete empathise, a lot of people made my pregnant miserable too, its shit isnt it? ❤️ Tell your brother to fuck off and stop being lazy - if he wants it done, he can do it. Be honest with your mum and tell her she's hurting your feelings. Youre kind of expected to gain weight? Your carrying a whole ass person 😂 I gained 20kg and honestly? I think i look better. Even though i have a c section 'shelf', my tits and ass are huge. My husband loves it, i love it and although sometimes I miss being a size 10, I mostly just miss the old clothes 🤷♀️😅 youre beautiful, youre creating life which is beautiful, this is a beautiful time in your life. Dont let other people make it ugly ❤️
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