Time to end it?
Im 3 months post partum. Our relationship has been rocky at times. We've been together on and off for 4 years. However, I just went on my boyfriends phone to set his alarm for work as he was passed out on the couch and ended up on his Instagram. Bearing in mind he never watches my stories as he says he doesnt see them...
Hes been messaging not only his ex before me, ok it was mostly friendly about their old house being sold but also messaging a girl I've never heard of saying things like, "babys great but relationship troubles. Same old shit from her but she got pregnant so ive had to stick around, knew we should've got together all those years ago" to this girl.
Ive gone in and shaken him awake and blown up saying naaaaaah not having the disrespect we are done. Hes literally got angry at me for being on his phone. Saying I dont get insta notifications so you've been snooping. Now I know why, cause he let's me on his phone and other messaging apps come up and he obviously doesnt mind because he does his flirting on insta. I find this irrelevant and a deflection tactic. He kept saying well we were going through a hard time and I was just telling her how it was. I was 3 WEEKS PP when these messages were going on. In the peak of my hormones crashing, crying all the time and he is still trying to justify his behavior.
Ive told him hes ruined it all and needs to go. Hes gotten so angry and aggressive (not physically) Im like hello ??? You aren't even apologising or seeing this isn't acceptable in our relationship. Not only that but im putting in 100% of the money to buy our house, I put in 100% of our baby saving fund for when we need to buy extra stuff for her. I've set up and paid for 100% of our babys bank account and hes got the AUDACITY to come at me and tell me im in the wrong for making him feel like shit at that time when I was literally crying every day struggling after an emergency c sec and caring for our newborn.
Someone please give me some clarity as ive already told him hes a piece of shit and this is the final straw but we are going to talk in the morning
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That man is trash, throw him away!
Don’t listen to the negativity on here.. I would get advice from a trusted support person you know in real life... not these strangers on the internet asking you to break up with him.
You’ve clearly invested a lot in the both of you and the relationship. Idk how long you have been together, but from my perspective and experience, men just take longer (the bond develops gradually over time). Give him some more time to grow into you, and you unto him. Also, it doesn’t matter what he’s been saying to this girl on instagram. I’d just ignore it. Lol.
You both have a real relationship and she is just someone “who got away” or he’s probably the one who got away for her. He chose you, not her! Let that be enough for now. As for the rest, give it time.
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