Roles in the home.

I’m due with our second child in a few weeks and we’re re-having the discussion on roles and who does what. Husband is convinced because I’m a sahm and he works that he is not obligated to do anything at home and I mean anything. He will refuse to help with newborn in anyway just as he did with our first. As well as chores around the house and anything you can think of. He truly believes he shouldn’t have to do a single thing in our home. What are your guys thoughts?

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Childcare Funding

Hey everyone, I’m a bit confused about the free childcare funding and was hoping someone could help.

At the moment, I get the 15 hours funded childcare. I’ve seen online and heard from a friend that it’s now increased to 30 hours, so I wanted to apply. However, when I log into my childcare account, I can only see the option to renew as normal every 3 months and can’t find anywhere to apply for the 30 hours.

Am I supposed to request the extra hours through GOV.UK, or is it something the nursery arranges? Just wondering if I’m missing something. Thanks! 😊

Child car parking spaces! Need tlc

So I was just in B&Q and the child’s spaces were taken, so I had to park in a small space towards the back, struggle to get my three month old out of the Baby seat in a tight space, then walk across a a car park full of vans with low visibility.

As I walked past the child car parking spaces there is a woman loading her car clearly with no children. I said excuse me did you realise these spaces were for cars carrying children?

In summary, she said yes, but she needed to load and it’s closer. I asked if she would treat a disabled space like that and she said yes she would park in a disabled place if she needed to, because she sees disabled people parking in the children’s spaces.

I pointed she doesn’t have any children in the car and she doesn’t have a disabled badge so she shouldn’t park in either and that she should be more considerate. Then she starts shouting at me and her husband comes out and starts cussing me off.

I just walked away, but I’m feeling pretty good knowing perhaps she will think twice about doing it next time now someone’s confronted her.

What do you think, ladies, was it worth it? I need some tlc!

Baby groups

I feel guilty because I've not been to any baby groups with this baby! He's 8 weeks and with my first born I was going to at least 3 a week at this age.
But now I've got a newborn and toddler I feel like my days are just so busy I haven't got the time to go to groups. My toddler goes to nursery 4 days a week so it's not like she's at home either. But I'm still just so busy.
Does anyone else feel the same?
I feel like I should push myself and make the effort but tbh my little boy sleeps most of the day anyway so I don't think he'd stay awake for any groups yet. 😂

Idk what to do

I’m pregnant and it’s my first ever and my husband works overnight and I cry all night long bc of it and I don’t wanna say anything to him bc I know he already struggles enough with having to even work while i stay at home so he can take care of us but it kills me sometimes I think that when I have the baby it’s gonna be worse I’ll be by myself all night with the baby missing him and having to deal with it alone all night can anyone give me any advice or anything I need smth

Im embarrassed

I have a son he's 2 I been raising him alone I don't have any family help I work I'm basically living paycheck to paycheck I texted my son dad asking him for 25 dollars for pull up and wipes no reply I been calling everyone in the state I live to see if I can get pull ups or even diapers so I can on here to see if I can get more information for free diapers a lady on here told me she will venmo the money and she disappeared so I called 211 in my state no help I even called the nearest food pantry no help I don't know what to do I want to give up I know it's hard for everyone at the moment I don't know what else to do

Should I be terrified Im having a girl with this man?

Its 4AM, hes obviously in a fragile ego state but you literally went out of your way to alter a photo of me and write a nasty message to what? Feel better? Make me feel small? I kick myself everyday for choosing to have a baby with him but im even more so devastated that my little girls first monster in life will be her daddy. Mind you this "man" is 40 years old. Its just sad ive mever wanted to purposefully hurt someone let alone do so while they're 7 months pregnant already dealing with body dismorphia.