Abortion or not

if you really don’t believe in it, don’t get one. however, if this pregnancy will cause your body issues with how early it is, or if you cannot handle 4 already as it is by yourself (not saying you don’t have help but if you don’t or if you’re alone frequently with all the kids) just think of if it’s something you can handle. me for sure i’m at 2 1/2 rn 3 is most definitely my limit but if i found out i was pregnant again i probably would terminate because i know for myself i mentally would not be able to do it. maybe it’s selfish but if you think about it the first 10 ish weeks, it’s really not a baby (that’s what made me feel less terrible when i had my termination)

don't feel any shame about doing what is right for you. you say you were gutted when you found out, and you have a family here and babies you need to be there for who are already in this world. an abortion isn't comfortable for anyone but you need to make the choice that's right for you. if you decide you want to see this pregnancy through then absolutely go for it, but if you don't, then don't, and that's okay. we're all tested with incredibly difficult and upsetting decisions in our lives sometimes, im sorry this will be one of them for you, but maybe try to accept that - it will be hard to make no matter what but ultimately you still have to make it and do the right thing for you. and then forgive yourself for whatever feelings come with that because it wouldn't be a difficult decision otherwise.

my advice is listen to your gut. if you really listen to it i bet it's already made its mind up. that's all we can do in these situations ❤️

It’s up to you mama… but if circumstances are different what would you do? What do you really want? What do you have the most peace about? If one abortion was traumatizing, are you ready to go through it again? Is that something you can live with? Do you have non judgmental support if you do?

I’m on baby #3, and my oldest just turned 3, so I get it. I was raised pro life so I just couldn’t… I’ve actually lost friends and family because I wouldn’t abort 😕 but I refused to make such a permanent decision in a temporary situation. I’m a single mom with literally almost no support, and already struggling with 2… but I believe my babies are my biggest blessings. None of them are mistakes and it’s not my place to make that judgement call. I know it will be incredibly difficult, but I have this unusual peace that everything will work out as it should!

At the end of the day, it’s not just “your body, your choice” it’s what can you live with? 🤍

First, I’m so sorry you’re facing this dilemma and I’m sure it is quite devastating and hard to decide which route to go. At the end of the day, you have to do what is best for you and the decision has to be one that you can life with and of course talk to your partner as well.

Now you did ask what would I do.. and if I were in the same situation I would probably abort simply on the grounds of the finances and inability to be able to support another child so soon. I myself am about to become a mother of 5 and I already know that this is it for me. Should I happen to get pregnant again.. and hopefully that doesn’t happen.. I’ve already come to the decision that I would abort because I don’t have the finances to support another child, especially in this economy.

Like I said, it’s your decision. Don’t allow anyone to pressure you either way.