Ectopic pregnancy

Posting here because it’s the biggest group and I need advice and reassurance.

I’m 36 and have a 17 month old daughter. I also have Endometriosis. No history of miscarriage or ectopic before now.

Today, I spent 8 hours at A&E to be told that my pregnancy was ectopic. I was then rushed into surgery to remove the fallopian tube, possibly the ovary and the embryo in the tube as they believed I was close to rupture due to the incredibly high HCG levels.

I’ve not seen the doctor yet as I didn’t get out of recovery until 9:45pm so I’m not sure whether they’ve taken my ovary too. I won’t know until the morning.

How do I make my recovery easier? What is a must buy or must do to help myself?

Anyone who has been through similar/has similar history, feel comfortable sharing their fertility journey after? We’re desperate to bring home a sibling for our daughter

in our community

Postpartum self care

FTM here, I feel like I'm being so organised for baby and completely forgot about myself and not sure of everything I'll need.
What are things I'll need/be super helpful....literally everything from underwear to healing sprays/gels, pads etc.
Hoping for a water birth and to breastfeed....so anything essential for breastfeeding too.
Recommendations extremely welcome 😅

ER or am I just paranoid?

So for the past few days I’ve noticed that whenever I eat a meal, my chest starts to feel tight and it gets hard for me to breathe. I try changing my posture or even leaning back a little but it doesn’t help. Even without me eating I still feel the same feeling.
What should I do?

Bonnie blue. “Golden” baby shower 🤮🤮🤮🤮

I honestly don’t know how much more degradation of society and oversexualisation of women I can deal with 😭😭😭 how is this actually real??? At first I thought it was a fake pregnancy but the belly is looking very much real now

She is planning to have random men piss on her pregnant belly… it makes me think what type of content will she be creating when the babies actually here

It seems people are willing to stoop to the lowest of lows these days for money

Contractions...

I know that every body is different, but how do you know if you're having actual contractions ? Of course at some point I'll be like "oh yeah, baby's coming 100%", but I don't want to be ready to bear down while still at home.

I've felt low grade (2-4 pain) period cramps throughout the day, since yesterday. I do randomly get one that's worse (4-6 pain), but the lower grade ones are more common. Happens every now and again, maybe twice an hour. They have been along my lower belly and sometimes lower back.

I'm definitely dropped. Belly is soft along the top (feels weird 😅). Lightning crotch is starting and baby's head is applying some pressure. Midwife said I was 3cm on Thursday. However, no sign of my water breaking except a small dribble yesterday, and that really could have just been pee.

41+1... so just waiting. Could this be it ? 😮‍💨🙏

6-8 week postnatal appointment

What happens at the postnatal appointment?
I've read there could be an internal exam bit other places have said they don't?
I had a c section if that makes a difference?🤷🏼‍♀️

Has anyone else found it really difficult just being in mum-mode 24/7?

April baby is my second, I also have a 3yo, and I'm finding it really difficult. Every second of the day is taken up by my children and family and house, and of course I love it mostly, but I'm overwhelmed by how little time I get to do anything for myself.

I'm so embarrassed to admit it but I shower way less than I should because it just feels like an enormous task when I have barely any energy and just want to go to sleep. Whenever I do shower it's a quick 5 minutes in and out. I brush my hair maybe once or twice a week because I just feel run off my feet, I've just been throwing it into a claw clip as soon as I wake up because baby needs tending to immediately as I open my eyes.

I used to do so many little hobbies - I'd read a new book every week or so, crochet, painting and drawing, walking and yoga, baking. I don't do anything now.

I baked some sugar cookies for my sons birthday a couple weeks ago and it felt like such an effort to get it done. I had to split it up over 2 and a half days just to get them baked and decorated. I was whisking whilst my baby screamed, sitting on the floor in front of the oven with her in my arms so I could watch for them being done because if I put her down for 5 minutes she'd explode. This was all round a time she was having a bit of a fussy spell, she's a bit calmer now, but it all just happens at once.

It makes me fuming when I see my husband enjoying all his hobbies like he did before, and if he gets interrupted and huffs about it all annoyed at if he's so hard done by it gets me even more annoyed. Like be still gets to play video games all the time, he plays the piano and recently got a new keyboard which he's been on constantly, he's been able to watch all the world cup football, just things that I wouldn't feel like I was able to do. I can't remember the last time I watched anything, probably when I was pregnant.