Pls Help
The thought of leaving my baby for 1–2 hours to get my hair done is honestly killing me. 😭 She's exclusively breastfed, so I'll make sure to pump and leave enough milk for her, and she'll be staying at my parent’s house.
It's nothing against my parents at all, I trust them. It's just the thought of leaving my baby that's making me feel so anxious. I'm worried she'll want me and I won't be there for her🥺
She's only 3 months old, and we've been together every single day since she was born. Mamas, how did you manage the first time you left your baby? Does it get easier? Is this separation anxiety, or is it just normal for a first time mum?
I'd really appreciate any advice or reassurance. 🤍
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One of the mental shifts i had to make is understanding that me taking care of myself…… helps my baby. Me practicing self care, taking time out for myself, doing things i enjoy …. helps me show up a happier, healthier, more well rounded…more loving and kind self for my baby.
Also, having others who are dependable to show up and support me and my baby is also healthy and better for the both of us. Having someone who can comfort, feed, and care for her outside of myself is a value and is better for my baby especially if i were to be in an emergency situation the transition of care would be more comfortable for her.
Totally normal as a 1st time mum! You carried her in your body for 9 months, and haven't left her side in the 3 months since she was born. That's a whole year! Its totally natural to feel nervous. But you're allowed to do things for you too! The first few times you'll be counting the minutes till you're back with her, but it does get easier with time. Maybe ask if your parents can send pics/videos of her while she's with them so you cam see what she's up to. Enjoy your hair appointment though gal, you deserve it
It’s normal, I left my first born for a massage at 3 months, just the one hour. And although I was very nervous about it I felt good afterwards! I still don’t leave them unless I need to. I would have them with me to get my hair done for instance 😂 can your mum come with you two? If you go on your own just trust that she’ll be fine! It’s not a long time xx
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