Lustful husband
Advice welcomed please. I am approaching 9 years with my husband. We have two children together, who are both under 3 years old. I’ve dealt with him emotionally cheating twice, pre marriage and pre babies, and like a dummy I had forgiven him. When I would find out, he would tell me how terrible he felt and how he regretted everything and would work hard to gain my trust again. BTW I’ve constantly explained to him throughout our whole relationship that his lustful actions of watching corn and looking up instagram baddies felt disrespectful to me. After we got married and had kids, he convinced me that none of that was going to happen anymore and I believed him because he started to turn more to God and his phone was generally clean when I would check. Sometimes I seen he would slip up and look up big 🍑 latinas, but forgave him since he would show remorse. 2 days ago, I seen he searched “so cal swingers” on Reddit website where it showed many inappropriate pics and couples looking for another male in their relationship. Mind you, I’m not into that. His excuses for his past actions was that he was “young and dumb”, his excuse now is that it’s my fault because I don’t put up enough. We do it once a week, of course more would be great but our 2 kids are so clingy. We agreed we would just coparent now that the damages in our relationship seem irreversible. Are there any men out there that are not lustful at all?? Hearing other women’s experiences, all men are the same. If all men are the same I would just rather stick with the one I got or just be single. I’m afraid to contact family or friends about this because knowing the dummy I am, I would want to repair for the sake of my own family. As a stay at home mom, I don’t have any of my own income to get my own place. Not sure what to do.
Husband is p*ssing me off!!!
It started off with him telling me I was acting "silly", code for stupid/ridiculous, when I said baby dropped, which means I will be going into labor sooner than we thought. All I can think, is you being for real right now?! You have a baby and I'll tell you there's no need to fill nervous.
Then he starts coming up with all these different scenarios that could happen, and I need to come up with solutions for our other children. I was fine at this point of going into labor sooner, but nooo! Ffs dude just chill the hell out and stop overthinking everything. The kids will be fine with our family member. Like come on, I have to get him to stress less so I can be at peace... again!
It's just so annoying the over-preparedness, because it's like that for every aspect of our life. Well guess what it takes the enjoyment out of life sometimes because, I have to prepare for cases that are the worst