Midwife appointments causing more anxiety

I wouldn't feel guilty. There could be multiple reasons why you don't feel then as much. Depends where you placenta is and where abouts the baby is positioned. I don't feel my baby all the time. I would go to triage just to check to make sure everything is okay. Because of how far you are they will likely want to monitor the babies heartbeat to make sure there no issues and then they will book a scan appointment to check growth. It's totally okay to feel anxious but if you ever suspect something is wrong no matter what just ring Triage.

My baby doesn’t have a pattern either so how am I supposed to know what’s normal 😂 I’m a ftm and haven’t a clue I’ve been to triage once and that’s because I fell over and then didn’t feel her move for over like 9 hours I’m 31 +5 so don’t stress

Hey! I’m 28 weeks and my midwife said the same to me - I’ve got a posterior placenta and looking online I’ve read people feel them loads - I do not! Mine doesn’t also have any pattern it will be random throughout the day and I said to the midwife yesterday and she said as long as you are feeling them it’s fine, as I was also concerned that I needed to go triage x

I feel the same to be honest, I’m 29 weeks and my baby has some quiet soft days and then some mad energetic days. Any change in my routine causes differing movements too so it’s hard to ‘just know the typical pattern’

I think the main thing is if you don't feel your baby moving at all that's when to be concerned. When they say you know the pattern they just mean you generally know when your baby moves. Like my baby is active on a night as soon as I lay down she is kicking the hell out of me. Also some ways to help baby move is drinking a cold drink or eating a sugary snack. You are all doing your best mummas xx

I’m 30 + 5 weeks and don’t have any pattern either, some days he’s more wiggly and than others. Some days it’s mainly morning and evenings, others can be in the day too but I find if you’re busy you don’t really pay that much attention or as it’s currently warm if you’re a little dehydrated they won’t move as much. I went to triage so frequently with my first as I had an anterior placenta so rarely felt anything. If you don’t think you’ve felt anything for long periods of the day or times you would normally, try some cold water, something’s sugary or lay down and give a little tap to your tummy as it all encourages movement (if they’re awake) and if you feel any concerns about excessive or reduced movements just to get checked out x

This happened to me on my daughter. I was constantly in triage because of reduced movements it was terrifying and all was ok. She was born and literally was so chill!!!! So this time round I’m trying to take it as a pinch of salt. I’m 28 weeks and can’t say I’ve got a pattern either xx

My baby doesn’t have a pattern and I find it amazing that anyone’s able to track them 😂
My last midwife app she asked me the same question, I said I definitely feel him move every hour or so but that the intensity varies and that’s about as much pattern as I could give!
She said that’s absolutely fine as long as he’s moving plenty, and that they don’t care much about specific patterns or counting ☺️

I’d say pattern loosely meaning morn eve night and regularly waking up

My baby doesn’t have a pattern either, or not one that I’ve recognised anyway & it did stress me out at one point

I’ve been to triage once, during the last heatwave, because I got in my own head that they weren’t kicking like normal when in reality I was probably just super busy that day so hadn’t mentally acknowledged it. By the time I was strapped up they were kicking away

I genuinely think you would know, even without a pattern, you’ll just have a gut feeling if you think something isn’t right and it’s just important that if you get that feeling of doubt you don’t “wait to see in the morning”. They were lovely and I came out a lot more relaxed