Does this make me a ‘bad mom’?

My son turns two soon, last year for his 1st bday and Christmas he got a bunch of toys from both sides of the family. Enough that he still has some put away unopened (some gifts he wasn’t really old enough for yet). I told every one this year for his birthday not to get him anything besides clothes or maybe an outdoor toy. Everyone agreed when I explained why, except my SIL. When my husband mentioned to her not to get any toys she apparently made a comment along the lines of me being mean for telling people not to get him anything.

Does it make me a bad mom or mean for him not getting toys this year?

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Ignore what she has to say. When my kids don't need any more toys for Xmas or bday, my family are quite happy gifting money, and it goes into the kids' savings. Why waste money on more toys? You clearly don't need them but honestly I wouldn't care what she thinks

People are just so rude when it comes to your boundaries and rules for your children. I never allowed my son to play with nerf guns or any toy guns & one year my family purposely bought him a bunch. They wasted their money cause I threw them all away & ruined his Christmas bc he didn’t receive anything else besides toys I didn’t allow.

It's not mean of you! But, she is allowed to spend her money on what she wants. So I think when it comes to events you can request but not tell, if that makes sense? I keep a list throughout the year and give people different options off the list to choose between and try to do things where they can add their own spin, aren't just buying a set item e.g. asked my dad for magnatiles but said any kit he likes, he turned down the previous thing I suggested because he didn't like it. For our daughter's first birthday I asked for cash and those who gave it contributed towards her trike and allowed us to get her a couple of big presents rather than a lot of little things. My SIL always goes off script but I'm not mad about that, my nephews help her choose and at the end of the day she's getting my daughter a present and they put thought into it. She probably doesnt seriously think you're a bad mum, I wouldn't take it to heart, she was probably just being dramatic cos toys are better than clothes as a present lol

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