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Baby Daddy Drama

Babies last name

Okay so a little back story. I am bi and in 2016 I married a woman. I took on her last name at the time. We ultimately divorced 5 years later and I decided that it was easier to just keep the last name instead of changing over all my things. I had also made a lot of professional and personal connections during that time and everyone knew me by that last name. Since our divorce we have had absolutely zero contact, zero attempts at contact, I dont speak of her and I don't even subconsciously think of her when I even tell people my last name. Face forward to now and my BD and I were together for about 2.5 years. He had promised me the world, a ring etc and welp now that never happened. Hes been absent majority of my pregnancy and now im 8 months pregnant and we have a very strained relationship where I really want nothing to do with him. Hes constantly stressing me out to the point I was in the hospital for contractions a few days ago. Anyway this a*hole thinks im just going to give our daughter his last name. I grew up in a household where my last name never matched my mom (she remarried twice) and it always stuck with me. So I want to give her my last name. Tell me why im now getting accused of being "obsessed" with my ex and being told im disgusting for even thinking about doing that. This has been my last name for the last 10 years. This man is so unreliable I just know in a few years hes going to make excuses why he cant take her on his like weekend type of shit. Am I wrong for doing this? Like does it seem petty because im really viewing it as I want to share something like this with my little girl especially if im about to be a single mother.