Is my baby high maintenance?

This is a silly question but I’ve struggled since becoming a mom and when I talk to friends it just seems like things are easier for them and I just feel like it’s hard being a parent. My baby has breastfed almost every hour until about 9 months and then she switched to closer to 2 hours. She had bad reflux as a newborn and we could never put her down without her crying. Even after we got her reflux under control she wouldn’t want to be put down and she’s would cry when other people tried to hold her. I could never leave her for more than 15-20 min a time, this only happened once a day tho when she was really happy, until she started crawling but if I’m not close by she starts to cry. She woke up every 1-2 hours until we started cosleeping around 6 months and ever since she wakes up 4-5 times a night. I am not trying to get sympathy and I love being a mom but I’m so worried to have a second baby because what if she gets really upset? I just feel like she needs all my attention and idk how I’m going to have more kids or start working again. Every one just tells me you figure it out but I just don’t know how I’ll be able to until she’s a lot older

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How old is she now? I don’t think she’s high maintenance, I think you’re obviously her safe person. Every baby has different needs. It won’t be like this forever and things will get easier as time passes! Everything is a season!!

How old if your bub??
Sounds kinda similar to my boys. My eldest who is almost 3 was also breastfeeding every hour (he now only does at night) and we cosleep. He wouldn’t be put down and we always contact napped. He has very high energy and is always on the move and when I talk or see other people with their kids and especially boys and they just sit at a cafe or their boys walk next to them it is hard as mine won’t sit and just wants to run.
My youngest who is 7 months wouldn’t be put down wouldn’t go to anyone even dad he started to go to dad at 4ish months for a little but then would start crying now he’s crawling he’s a lot happier as long as I’m in slight (we live in a teeny tiny place so I’m never far from him)

I had my second when my first was 27 months old and it was difficult not going to lie and I was so worried that he would get so jealous as he was and still is a huge mummy’s boy but he absolutely surprised us he just adores his little brother.

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Partners …

Hey! Whose partner gets up with the kids in the morning? I can’t remember the last time mine did. It’s just become the norm that I get up everyday at 6:30am with both children & my partner swans down at about 8:30am (self employed)
Is this the reality for many others or am I being taken for a push over?
I also do bedtime every night & he barely makes it up the stairs to say goodnight. Is this normal?

What would you do?

What would you do if you move to your couch to sleep and your partner comes down to you and slaps your arm to wake you up? Which before moving down there you were between two bodies in 70° house temps and you sleep hot. Which means you can’t sleep if you are hot.

When you were a teenager, on the weekend you went to bed at midnight, what time did you wake up on Saturday?

My husband doesn’t believe me when I said that as a teenager on the weekend I slept in till noon and he said that’s not normal.

My cat fell off the balcony 3 years ago form the 18th floor…. He survived with zero injuries how is this even possible ?

I think about it everyday YES the 18th floor I thought I’d find him dead but he was there with his tail up happy waiting for me… apparently the way they are built it’s normal for them to not break bones something due to terminal velocity … it’s just soo funny because he’s okay and fully healthy 3 years later

Holidays with toddler

Do you let your toddler stay awake past bedtime and forget their routine to enjoy your holiday or do you stick to usual routine and put them to bed earlier and suck it up? (Preferable for mums of toddlers before 2)

Baby sleeps, but still stressed.

My little girl wakes every two hours for milk and a change. But the rest of the time she is sleeping all day and night. She has less than 1hr wake window. Yet still i’m stressing over everything i rush my shower, my eating, cooking and even cleaning is not the same anymore. I feel like my blood pressure is High all the time. Scared that she will wake up, while doing something. ( maybe because I am alone with her idk) Anyone else?