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AITA for being upset? Best friend using my baby name (please read before voting)

I want to preface this with saying that I don’t believe anyone owns a name and that I hope people don’t read this and think that I feel entitled. Because I don’t. I’m just sad and upset.


So, my best friend and I met like 10 years ago because we were both doing IVF at the same clinic at the same time and lived a half hours drive away from each other (despite the clinic being a 2 hour drive away). IVF didn’t work for either of us.

Since then she has decided she no longer wants to have children (long story to do with her toxic partner) and I have had a child.

Recently we found out I was pregnant again and I told my friend and we talked about names etc as my partner and I were set on names this time around. I told my best friend our names (one picked for boy and one for girl). She loved them. I know people will say you shouldn’t share but I’ve always shared with her and it’s always been fine. She was my biggest cheerleader with each pregnancy.

My pregnancy then ended in miscarriage and I was devastated, as you can imagine.
My best friend bought a puppy 2 weeks after our miscarriage and named her the girls name that we were set on using.

I didn’t say much when she told me, just that I guess we can’t use that name anymore. But I am upset by it. Sure, we may have had a boy and not been able to use it any way. But I think, it’s the timing that stings the most.

Best friend think I’m being an A hole and has put a dark cloud over her happy time with her new puppy.

So, AITA?