Going out with baby

Hi! I have an almost 4 month old and honestly it’s been hard ever since my husband went back to work. I definitely have PPD and have been actively seeking help (therapy, support groups, etc.).

Going out with my baby gives me some anxiety, especially anything that requires me to commit to a time since I can’t predict her mood and if it’ll be during a time she wants to nap or not (trying my best to follow her cues). I like the idea of and curious about storytime at my local library but I don’t know what to expect — I read books to her at home but what does storytime look like for a 4 month old in a group setting? First time mom and new to all of this so please pardon if it sounds silly of a question or obvious.

My baby is pretty content in the car starting out, but if something does take too long due to traffic, she does get impatient/fussy/crying and I feel extra pressure to get home as soon as possible (and as safely as possible).

Any advice on going out to lessen my own anxiety? What has your experience been like in going out with your baby, especially at 4 months?

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Honestly you just have to do it over and over again and it will slowly get easier 😅 i know thats not very helpful but the longer you put it off the worse your anxiety will get, how do you find things like taking her shopping, or going for a walk? Could you start with that and then slowly build up to things where you need to be there at a specific time? Xx

You’re doing so well! I can’t help much as we don’t have story time where I live.
For me I remember repeating something like a mantra to myself: it’s my job to keep my baby safe, but it’s okay if they cry/ are in a bad mood. Sometimes you can’t do anything to make them happy/ content. Just like we sometimes have a shit day or are uncomfortable and impatient. It’s normal to feel stressed by it but it helped me to learn “radical acceptance”, sometimes there’s nothing you can do but accept that your baby is sad/ annoyed/ uncomfortable. As long as they’re safe, it’s all good :)

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