41 weeks and partner has ended our relationship

I don’t even feel like I can speak to family right now, I don’t want people to hate him for the terrible timing but also feeling so broken 💔

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I am so so sorry he has done this to you right now. I would reach out to a trusted family member and/or friend. Also think about who could be your birthing partner if your partner isn’t going to be there. Happy to chat over message for support xx

I’m so so sorry to hear this, as above, reach out to a trusted person and get all the support you need, don’t feel the need protect someone who’s done this, you need support ❤️❤️❤️

So sorry this has happened to you. Your family and friends will want to be there for you please talk to them and put yourself first 🙏🏼

Terrible timing is putting it mildly, stress is not good for you nor baby as I’m sure he good and well knows. Speak to your family as you do need support, it’s not up to you to protect him from what people think of him.

Hope you get some sleep tonight and agree with the other ladies, you need your loved ones through this 💛

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I have been cut off by people.

Okay so let’s try this again.

I am cut off by people who were at once a support system but love and have access to my baby but absolutely have turned on me. But at some point loved and adored me now hate me.

I know people don’t like people but I’m that horrible?

How do you handle that? And is it valid to feel hurt when you as the mom know they get to see baby but have nothing to do with you? Have lied and gossiped and had caused mental and emotional and distress.

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