First time mum home visits - when can I expect this?

Hi all,
FTM, currently 30 weeks pregnant with a baby boy on the way. I can’t find any guidance online as to the process / timeline for when a home visit would usually be conducted.

Having just moved into a 2 bed property, the house is very unorganised and I don’t want a visit sprung on us whilst it’s a mess and things are everywhere, as I wouldn’t want the health visitor to have any unwarranted concerns.

Was just wondering when you had your home visits & what the visitors are really looking for?

I’m prioritising the bedroom & nursery in the first instance so I can show that I have everything ready for when baby arrives.

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