Is my mum right?

My mum was asking me how my baby was with his fussiness when trying to nap as he can be quite bad and fight the sleep. And I haven’t started to let him fall asleep at bedtime by himself yet either.
However when I told her he’s still quite fussy and only likes being in certain positing being held and rocked to sleep etc, she said sarcastically ‘you’ll learn’ and that I’m causing a problem for myself and should just leave him in his next to me/moses basket to cry and fall asleep?
Despite me saying he would just continue to cry and not actually go to sleep she still said I should leave him….
Is it that the older generation (who have been there/done that before) think they know best or is she right?
I do need to start sleep training but I don’t feel I can leave my baby to cry.

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She’s right! But with that being said, you can do whatever you want with your baby!! I still cuddle my 18 month old to sleep, yes I got her into a bad habit but she’s so young, she’ll grow out of it eventually. I tried to sleep train her but she just screams and screams without end so I figured there was no need to stress her out.

This time round my second baby is naturally a bit better at falling asleep independently which I think is because I’m so busy with my oldest.

Wow ok. No she’s not right. Research has shown the impact of leaving your baby to cry it out. This is outdated advice that was pretty standard I think in the 80s/90s. Research and our understanding of babies/attachment has come on massively.
Babies are naturally and biologically wired to be held and be close to us. They depend on us for literally everything so why should sleep be any different?
Yes they will need to learn the skill of falling asleep but this will come and there are other methods of sleep training to support this without leaving your baby to cry.
Please don’t follow the above and attempt to sleep train your 3-4 month old. They’re far too young at this age, they literally think they are you and don’t know you are separate beings. Shouldn’t sleep train to 6+ months.
I think your mother’s instinct is telling you you’re right and you should trust that.
I’m sure there will be many reply’s to your post to this effect and supporting your view xx

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