I don't know how to enjoy my birthday. Advice?

My birthday is coming up (I'm a Virgo for those who partake and wanna know). My birthday has never been a good experience for me. When I was not married I would go to breakfast alone, go to work, go home and eat a whole cheese pizza while crying. No one ever remembers my birthday or plans something nice for me. If I wanna do something it's all my own labour that goes into it. Advice on how to change this? Yes I'm the oldest daughter lol.

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Same here😭😭 not a Virgo tho im a sag but also the oldest daughter 😭

It snows every year on my birthday & therefore I haven’t made birthday plans since I was 11 years old. Because I do not handle disappointment well.

Oldest daughter (capricorn with 2 aries parents), i take the day and plan what i want to do to avoid disappointment 😆
I bake my cake, choose the restaurant and knit because Id rather that. Maybe try and see the positives of being 'selfish ' on your bday??

During Covid there was this app I think it’s called House Party, one of my friend’s had her 30th bday celebration and everyone attended virtually, it was actually a good time. We all got dressed up, did our hair and makeup lol. Could you do something like that and invite your friends off here?

lol maybe I’m living under a rock bt I don’t understand the problem. I celebrate my birthday alone too & it’s great bt it’s becuase I don’t need or want or wait to feel celebrated by others. I can make myself feel special on ur special day. I don’t expect anything from anyone cuz that’s how ppl dissapoint themselves. As an adult, Heal ur inner child by enjoying ur own company during ur birthday & to stop expecting ppl to remember u or plan something special. I remember when I 1st started dating my husband and I told him that I didn’t expect anything from anyone not even from him for my birthday from anyone, he looked at me like I was crazy cuz he never met anyone like me, so he forces me to “expect” something from him for my birthday cuz he thinks it’s his job to make my birthdays special bt he doesn’t have to cuz I can make my own birthday special for me. Bt long story short Happy birthday!!! Enjoy ur day! And make sure to never stop making urself feel special even when others can’t

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