Has someone ever said something small to you that you never forgot?
I was explaining this to my husband but he doesn't get it and tends to just forgive and forget, or literally just forgets, like small stuff isn't significant to him.
Maybe I'm just super insecure but if anyone says anything remotely negative to me I never forget it. Even the stupidest, most childish stuff.
For example when I was about 8yo my sister told me I had a fat bum 🤣 But since then I have always been really self conscious about my butt. (It was like the first time i remember feeling self conscious) Even now, when I feel good about myself there's a little tiny voice that's like maybe I'm still fat?
And when I was younger, maybe 12 or something, I had a best friends activity book that I filled out with my bestie (who I'm still friends with today!) and it just had loads of little questions and one of them was to write down something you didn't like/you found annoying about your best friend (which looking back was so dumb, like who wrote that book?) Anyways I didn't really want to hurt her feelings and I didn't really have a solid answer so I wrote nothing, I don't find anything annoying about my best friend, but she wrote without hesitation that I "always say 'I don't know' to everything" and from that point on I've always avoided answering questions with "I don't know" or "I'm not sure" even as an adult! 🙂🙄 I get so much anxiety when I get asked something I don't know the answer to, it's ridiculous. If I do say it, I immediately keep count in my head and make sure I don't say it again too many times in the same day to the same person 🙂🙂🙂
I told my husband this and he (politely) told me that I'm too sensitive and I know! But it's just how I've always been, I blame my upbringing honestly..
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I don’t remember every little thing but some things stick with me. For instance, when we told my partners friend that we were about to do testing to start IVF and my partner had to do a semen analysis, this friend dead ass looked me in the face and asked “are you not even going to let him try first?”
I’d already been diagnosed as infertile and spent many years with an ex partner trying to conceive, with IVF failing so the specialists said to go straight to IVF again. He was very aware of this background info too.
That I will never forget.
Oh I have plenty of memories like this of people who made a “joke” about my body that have stuck with me and created a lifelong insecurity lol
I have a terrible memory but I remember the exact moment my dad first told me I was fat and to eat less or no one would like me! I was 5 and we had just gotten home from KFC and we were checking the mail.
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