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Mamas with depression, anxiety, and other mental health disorders

Anyone else have a partner who refuses to bathe and makes everything dirty around them?

The father of my kids does not wash. Currently it's been at least 2 weeks maybe longer. I bathe twice a day especially needed since it's been a hot summer. He does not sleep in my bed thankfully but when he did this was a problem on my sheets and blankets too. The last two years or so he's slept in the living room on the recliner. We had a worn pleather recliner until early this year that had a slip cover. I washed that cover 3-4 times a week because it was horrible. This was very annoying because it's hard to take off/put back on and I don't need an extra job. we bought a new recliner this year. The cover doesn't fit because it's a bit smaller. Also the cover was in poor repair from extremely frequently washing. The new chair has a horrible odor. I worked 2.5 hours on it recently with the little green machine and it is not clean enough. Smells some better but not good enough for anyone to sit on. This morning we are having a babysitter coming so we can have a date because our relationship is not very good. He is in bed the babysitter will be here in an hour. He's not bathed. He needs to be incredibly badly. The chair is horribly dirty from him sleeping on it last night. I've been scrubbing it with soap and a brush because I cannot allow a babysitter to see it. I'm ashamed of what he thinks is acceptable in our home and his body. How can I get this chair clean enough? I guess I'm going to have to get some much stronger soap and use the little green more and maybe a new slip cover? Idk