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Baby Daddy Drama

Optional baby daddy

Desperately seeking advice. My kids father just recently got into a new relationship (gf is who he cheated on me with) and I can’t help but to be bothered that he hangs out with her and goes on all these outings with her more than he see’s his kids we have 2 under 2 (16 mo & 9 week old boys). We do not have a current visitation schedule we just kinda alternate whenever. Since having my youngest he has only had both of them together once and I practically had to force him to keep them. I call him an optional parent bc he’s able to pick and choose when he wants to take them or not. If I call/text him asking for help he’ll simply ignore me. Prior to him getting involved with this girl anytime I’d ask him to take our toddler he would never say no. Now I’ve always been the default primary parent since having our oldest and idk I’m just so overwhelmed now I’m damn near fighting for my sanity sometimes being home all day with them by myself.. we have a very toxic co parenting relationship ever since I found out he was cheating. I’ll tell him I’m going to put him on child support to at least get something from him but then he’ll threaten me with custody court and I fear that he will somehow come out on the other side of this winning full custody. He’s not a terrible father but he doesn’t even work right now he has no car he doesn’t even have the space for our kids at his house he lives with his parents still and he likes to leave the kids with his parents a lot so he can go out and I just don’t know what to do anymore🥲