Development Concerns

I'm hoping for a bit of reassurance or some solidarity! My son is just over 9 months and doesn't babble and doesn't seem to know his name although this is variable amoung family members. Certainly for me its massively inconsistent. He is working really hard on crawling..lots of rocking and also sitting from crawling and crawl from sitting. He is also trying to pull up. He is generally quite a quiet kid. He does scream, squeals, coo and lots of ahhhs! Uhs and raspberries. Any similar experiences? X

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Honestly don’t worry about it. Every kid is going to develop at their own pace and there is a huge spectrum for what’s normal. Plus is basically a rite of passage for a new mom to be neurotic about their first hitting st least one of their milestones and 90% of the time it’s fine.

My girl still ignores her name half the time when she’s distracted and she’s 14 months. She still only has 4 words and speaks mostly in silly babbles and charades. She didn’t crawl until 9/10 months and didn’t walk until 12.5 months.

It’s fine. He’s fine. You’re doing a good job and everything is fine.

I would say you're ok for now. Theres a huge variation in normal at this age, and what they dont do one day, they do the next.
My son has 0 words. Well, he says mama and seems to apply it to me as he will say it while looking for me, and will sometimes shout dada and seem to apply it to anyone who isnt me. He's nearly 11 months.
I seem to remember my daughter being able to say nanna, woof, meow and maybe moo at 11 months. But then there was another baby at our groups who was great at speech. My daughter rolled, sat and crawled before others, others took longer to do those things but spoke sentences sooner.
I am certain everything is fine, and the internet has just lulled you into a false belief! Im absolutely certain your little one is perfect ❤️

Just to add, we had our son's i think 4 month review letter, and his dad and I cried as he couldnt do a n y t h i n g in the milestones. By the time the lady came 2 weeks later, he was doing it all. Hubs and I had been researching how to help disabled children and everything. They will get there. It did take that extreme for me to realise that, and also at the same time, we saw the episode "Baby Race" on Bluey. At the time I was like "its not the same!!! Our son is impaired!!!!!" but no, no, it was me having unrealistic expectations on my son (not that you do!). I didnt realise that even if they dont do any of it on those forms, thats also normal!

I think this all sounds normal. My son didn’t crawl until 10.5 months. He’s just started walking at 16 months. I think he inconsistently responded to his name at that time too. They are still so young and all of a sudden they start doing things. Sounds like you’re doing a great job x

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