Any advice for a stressed mother

Back story, she's adopted as his her brother who's been home 5 weeks so I know she has attachment and emotional disregulation issues but the way she speaks to me is disgusting I'm just getting shut up and you're an idiot. She masks at school so I know she's doing it at home as this is her safe space and I'm her safe person just struggling to juggle them both. Sorry for the rant

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My first piece of advice is what you're already doing. Find people who get it and have a rant. I'm in the adoption UK and therapeutic parenting Facebook groups. Also I really like Sarah Naish's A-Z book for the reminders in the hard moments. It's not as good at putting the whole concepts over like the long form books but when you are in the thick of it you need a little top up and brief notes it's what I use. Also highly recommended 'why can't my child behave' by Amber Elliott.
Most importantly people who suggested chocolate are wrong, you actually want a takeaway. Feel free to DM me if you want to rant further

Thank you. I've got the A-Z book forgot I had that. I'll have a look at the book. I think I'm probably on some Facebook groups I'll have a look on them too. Thank you x

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