Only good moms go through PPD, PPA, etc.

I don't even understand why she would say that like it's a flex....

Makes zero sense. Sorry but she sounds dumb af 😬🫣

I didn't do any extra shit to qualify for PPD 😂

i don’t love your phrasing of the title but i agree with you that she’s wrong ! you’re not only a ‘good mum’ if you breastfeed, homeschool, watch what you eat etc etc. but i’m sure that’s not what you meant it’s just how it read. but none of that has anything to do with whether or not you experience PPD/PPA so yeah you’re right she’s completely wrong 🤦🏼‍♀️ the problem is probably education, it was less known about 40+ years ago so people were probably experiencing it and not understanding, so not sharing with others, or getting treated and seeing it as unrelated etc. so it probably won’t be that no one she knows experienced it but she either didn’t know they were struggling or didn’t know that’s what it was xx

It can be “good moms” who go through ppd but I also think women who don’t know they are being emotionally and mentally abused by their partners also deal with ppd. But the narc moms who are clearly selfish probably would act like they are better than other moms cuz they supposedly don’t have the typical ppd symptoms. And narcs sometimes love to use substances to avoid their true feelings of shame and inadequacy, so even if they have ppd they probably would do things to hide it cuz they can’t face the shame again like drinking. Unless you are dealing with the type of narc who is the perpetual victim and will use it to gain sympathy.

She’s dead wrong.

I had terrible ppd with my first. Lasted almost a year, and I didn’t even see it until the clouds started to part.

I was unable to breastfeed, didn’t watch what I ate, and generally did whatever I felt like. No alcohol or drugs though, I’ve been sober a long while.

My boy is four months old. I breastfeed, eat healthy, workout, and get the kids out of the house. I’ve never been happier.

The only way what she’s saying could make sense would be that the more pressure you put on yourself in terms of your expectations the more likely you are to be in the depth of despair in the first few years especially but it’s not like it’s a prerequisite it would be like something that could increase the likelihood of this happening or if you already have it make it worse but I don’t even think you could say that there’s an actual statistically significant correlation because the only relevant thing would be the intent and that’s not what’s being described

Eee yeah I don’t think we should moralize mental illness, it sounds like mayyyybe something someone good intentioned would say though I guess to a mom who’s going through it, but your mom doesn’t sound like that’s what she was trying to do 😅

Mental illness doesn’t work like that. I’m sure lots of stress can exasperate it but this lady sounds cray

Who knew the cure for ppd was leaving your baby to party.

Oh how lovely if we could have that much control over our brains and hormones! 🤣🤣🤣 just do less and it'll fix it! 💀

Literally none of that has anything to do with PPD/PPA.

Pretty sure the requirements for having PPD or PPA or PPP is just...having a baby...