Settling a 4 month old?

So I’ve got twins and up until now I’ve sort of found things that will settle them so I can get things done. Recently as they are becoming more aware and playful I’ve found it so hard to keep them entertained so I can just have a bit of me time or do something that needs doing, anyone found anything that helps? They have their play gyms, we also go out more now but it seems to have amped up a notch in being a bit hard doing it on my own when my partners working!

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Husband

My husband says I’m weak minded and he wants a divorce.
I’m pregnant and we have one child together.
I currently am a stay at home mum.

I told him I’m not weak minded or jealous.
All this coming out so harshly is pure evil.

I said divorce but let me find a job first.
He did say to abort the child too.
He is happier without me.

He says first pregnancy I shown no hormonal symptoms like I am now.

Also he says never seen someone argue with their parents like me. I said my dad is a wind up and mum is hot headed.
I still speak to them after we do argue.

I said give one good quality of me.
He says I’m good at cleaning.
I said what about intelligence?

He did not say anything.

He said I hope after abortion you are fine.
I’m like wtf is wrong with you?
I am a fucking strong woman, I’m not weak minded or jealous.

Because of me he don’t have to do drop off and pick ups from nursery.

I actually will probably do an abortion as don’t want to have it with this man.

I want to leave him asap and take my son with me.

Starting food

How do you know when your babies are ready for food ? I know a lot of people who have started theirs at around 4 months but I can’t tell if mines ready or not and don’t want to try too soon

What to do when dad disconnects

Hi, FTM to an adventurous 9m daughter and her dad has revealed that he doesn’t feel the warm fuzzy feeling as she is too dependent on me.

I EBF and he doesn’t like how she cries when away from me and keeps saying I need to give up work as we are codependent.

I try to make them have time together but he just doesn’t want to anymore and switches off to the toilet or his phone.

Can people help as it’s impacting me doing anything for myself now (he has to bring her in when I shower or she’ll cry). I don’t want this type of attachment as I’m going work soon

A rant sorry annoyed with the other half

So my partner is gone on a stag iv at home with my 2.5 year old and 11 month old anyways since he’s been gone my little girl is crying for him. He said he would ring them in the morning and evening well he hasn’t bothered only when I ring him for 5 mins but I’m so annoyed I have to remind him to actually ring the kids not communicating great and i really lost it. Hes on a stag with all hes friends who ain’t dads yet but it’s like he needs reminding he’s 2 kids at home. Im all for him to go spend time with the kids but not to check in on the kids or even to ask how everything is really annoying sorry just needed a rant

Annoyed at partner

Would love some opinions. My husband has been commenting this evening about how tired and achy he is feeling, we have both been a little ill the last few days. this in itself doesn’t annoy me too much because I can appreciate that I have looked after our 4 month old all day and he has been out working all day. What annoys me is the following-
1. He came home after work and it was nearly an hour and a half before he finally came downstairs and took over care of our daughter. In the time he was just chilling I did a whole feed and two nappy changes plus general care.
2. He says he’s so tired knowing full well that he will have a decent night sleep tonight and I will be the one getting up to do feed and changes throughout the night etc …which irritates me as it feels like a real lack of awareness for what is ahead for me
3. Tomorrow (Saturday) he is going to watch his team play football with his dad so I will be on my own looking after baby most of the day. He made a joking comment about how he’s so tired that when he gets back from football tomorrow he will need to sleep the rest of the weekend …again I feel a complete lack of awareness on his part and appreciation for how I am feeling and how exhausted I am , plus the fact that I never feel like I get time to myself or time to do things I like the way he does
Am I being too sensitive? Should I say anything?

Weaning

Hey all!
My little girl is 8 months, 9 months on the 24th. What are we giving our babies in terms of food?
She’s had broccoli and carrots which she loves but she isn’t so keen on cauliflower.

She is mostly having pouches but wanna start making her some homemade dinners.

Any recommendations?