Same problem it seems .-.
I posted about a month or so ago about how my bf had deleted messages with his female co worker and it was her sending a lip bite emoji and he told me how he shut it down and can’t do that, how it needs to professional, etc. well this is now the second or third time I found out that he had her go get food for him. And most people when they hear that they’ll think there’s nothing wrong with it. And there’s not, except he’s lying about how he’s getting the food. Everytime he’s told me he’s done either a delivery or DoorDash for it whenever it’s her going to get it. Now there’s 2 things that bother me with that. 1. I have a car and live 10 min from his work. I’ve told him many times when it’s busy, I will get him food. I have no problem with it, I rather do it than him do a delivery. 2. I’ve told him the first time I found the deleted messages. I want honesty. Tell me the truth from the start and I won’t get upset. I told him him hiding things makes me think that there is more. And here it is that he’s lying about it. Again, her getting food is not the problem. It’s the problem he’s lying about how he’s getting it everytime. Is there any suggestions about this? Do I express to him it upsets me when he lies or is this a dumb reason to be bothered by
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He's not shutting it down like he said he is. Shutting it down would mean he blocks her and eliminating contact. Ideally she wouldn't be trying again bc she knows there's no chance. If she did try again because some women are persistent, he would stone face her at work. He's entertaining it. Does she know he's taken?
Nah they having lunch together and he didn’t shut nothing down. He is telling you only so it’s not hidden like you know of her so it’s not a full lie in his eyes so it isn’t as hard for him to hide. If she made a move like he claimed and shut it down like he claimed then there’s no reason for her to get him food at all. If he is hiding it and lieing bout it to you but stuff showing enough for you to see then he doesn’t care and put her above you. In my opinion I’d drop him or do shit back because he clearly won’t stop and if he did (only because you said) then he will keep doing it again after you calmed down and just hide it better.
P.s. he knows it upset you and why he is lieing about it. Ppl lie about stuff knowing it hurts the person but doesn’t wanna loose what they have while still keeping the new entertainment around
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