My two youngests father is highly narcissistic and currently dragging us through family court. Anyone else been through this or going through this? X
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Im so sorry for you , i was in this situation

My case was in usa

I wish you the best too. Be brave, and don’t let him see that you’re scared. Try not to get emotional. Just talk to him about basic things and the logistics concerning the child, and don’t react to his provocations, only talk with him about the child and just the necessary.
Talk to him in a way that you know wouldn’t be used against you if a judge were to read the messages. You can use ChatGPT for this too; it can help you remove emotion and conflict from your messages.
Keep everything in writing whenever possible. Avoid phone calls if you can, and if you can’t, record them when it is legally permitted. Keep all the evidence you have of abuse, and report anything you can that is true and appropriate.

said a lot of things that have helped when interacting with the narcissist in my life.
As far as documentation, patterns will be really important, rather than one single instance, when it comes to a narcissist.
Know that it is totally normal to feel overwhelmed and misunderstood in situations like this, due to the way that narcissists operate.
Feel free to dm me if you'd like to vent or ask any further questions.