When your son’s spirit is crushed 😭
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That is so discouraging to young athletes when coaches start playing favorites at such an early age. I would definitely question the coaches and bring it to their attention that he is no longer interested/has the desire to play anymore since he isn't playing anyways.
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I want to but the coaches specifically said at the parent meeting “don’t ask why your kid isn’t playing, we know what we are doing and it’s what’s best for the team.” Well it must not be what’s best they have lost three games by 30 points each time. This is one reason I hate sports they don’t think about what they are doing to a child’s mental health. The other thing is these are seventh graders the majority of them won’t play any further than high school.
That makes me so sad! I would be frustrated too.
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It’s so sad to see a child’s spirit broken. Because of this he may never play after this year. I’m not big on letting my kids quit something they start. If it really seems to effect his mental health then I will definitely let him quit and then will explain to his coaches that his mental health is more important than a sport.
Unfortunately in these circumstances it can actually cause more harm to talk to the coach. It's not right, and one of the many reasons why I left the public education world. If your child used to get play time in games and all of a sudden isn't getting any, I would definitely ask the coaches. If they fire back and aren't professional or reasonable, take it up with the athletic director and the principal. (I'm assuming he plays for a school and not an extracurricular organization) One of the last coaches I worked with had a group of parents gang up on him about how he treated the players, and it looked as though he was going to lose his job over it. I'm not sure if he actually did.
Life lessons, sometimes your the victor and sometimes your on the sidelines watching. It will be fine. These moments define us all. Not that it makes it easy, but this pain is necessary to grow. Good luck! 2021 will be better!
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Completely understand that, but at the same time when the coach is doing this to several kids and even at practice. I didn’t buy my son all his stuff for football to literally watch people play. Sports shouldn’t be about who you know or what your name is. I will never agree with it they are making kids not want to play and that’s not right. Especially when the kids he had playing obviously are not great when they are losing games by 30 points each time. But I’m sure the coach doesn’t want to hurt his “star players” feelings by letting the other kids play and possibly when.
This is time when he needs his mummy courage and guidance ... give him ur own example how u did manage similar but different situations in ur life
I should clarify that when the statement was made about asking he was saying that in general!