Gender reveal

We didn’t want a full gender reveal either! I always find those videos so awkward (in my opinion). We did something where we bought fortune cookies that had the sex of the baby written inside on a piece of paper. So when we told people it was kind of a reveal but kind of not...? Maybe that could be a compromise if you’re worried? Just a thought 😀

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I’ve thought of similar. Like us find out and surprise family and friends. But idk if that’s a thing.

It’s a great memory to have! You can show your kid when they’re older how your reaction was when you find out what you were having! Trust me you’ll like it!!

Well, I wanted to find out the day of delivery and he’s 100% against that one. And my mom asks me all the time if we’re going to find out. I don’t even know how a gender reveal works. Like who is even in charge of setting it up, inviting people, cooking, etc??

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So they’re responsible for any financial aspect of it?

Give the man a gender reveal you have to compromise, don't shut the option down jus because you don't want too... That's not fair.

Aww I wish my husband wanted one. I really wanted one but he wanted it as a special moment just between us to.

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See that’s what I’d prefer...if he can even come to my next appointment on the 5th

Yeah I know the whole 1 person thing sucks! My husband doesn’t like parties either. What we did.. had the gender in an envelope took a walk to the river & opened it there between us to only. I still wanted to surprise my family so I put the colored confetti in a ballon & revealed it at thanksgiving. That’s funny.. I just noticed you’re an Leow as well. Hmm my husband doesn’t like being around ppl bc of his job. Glad your husband does 😉

We got the sonographer to seal the gender in an envelope so we didn't know. Then passed it to a shop who did cannons so they could give us the correct confetti cannon without us knowing. The cannon was £5. Cos of covid family couldn't come round so we had them all on video call and did the cannon on Xmas day to make it extra special. We all found out at the same time and it was lovely as it kinda made our boy more special. I was desperate to find out the sex and my fiancé wasn't however when I said about all finding out with the cannon he loved it rather than just being told in the scan. You'll have to compromise its both your baby - just talk with the different ideas and come up with some together 🙂

You could always throw one for him. I don’t know if that’s a compromise but if you don’t want one and he does 🤷🏻‍♀️

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I asked him if I could do a cake or cookies for him with the color on the inside and he said no.

I mean if he’s not willing to compromise he doesn’t deserve anything. That’s tantrum behavior and narcissistic in my opinion. You can have what you want but if you need to compromise with your partner then you need to be able to communicate.

Take a black balloon have a family member fill it with blue or pink confetti 🎉 and pop it when the time comes

If u don’t want to know the sex until u give birth then why are u even doing it. I think if u want a surprise at birth then he is the one that should compromise not you

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Why am I doing what? And why should he be the one to compromise? Just curious on your point.

A gender reveal. Seems unnecessary especially if u don’t want to know. Did you say that earlier? That you would rather find out at the birth?

Why don’t you compromise and just find out traditionally and get them to tell you at the scan? I personally don’t want to find out as it’s only going to be a boy or a girl not a giraffe and I think it’s one of the few surprises in the world you’d be excited for either way. XxX

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For now the plan is to find out at my appointment in a few days— if he is allowed to come.

I just had a simple socially distanced gender reveal with fireworks outside. I had everyone select a blue or pink mask when they arrived to show if they were team blue or pink. I had about 20 people spread out in my back yard but I it was still so nice to witness family and friends reactions and support. We even got a few gifts! I recommend doing something but keep it simple.

Could you reveal together and then share a cute gender reveal photo to friends and family? That’s a good compromise

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Like how?

We’re the other way round because we struggled so much to get pregnant I want to do it all like gender reveal and baby shower ect- my partner is just so impatient he wants to know then and there 😂 I figure we will work it out eventually and if not I’ll do it how he wants as I get to carry and feel baby and go to scans men are pushed out no end because of covid so I feel is ladies compromising abit shouldn’t be too hard x good luck

We didn’t want a big gender reveal but still wanted to do something fun for family so we made a video of the dog with a blue and a pink bowl and we put treats in the pink bowl so he would eat from it and sent the video to family

You can do something small - between you two even. I found it really special doing something really small with just a few friends, finding out together and having a very cute video to share with family.

I haven’t grasped the reasons as to why? You don’t want to know the gender or you don’t want a gender Reveal ? When you have your scan... you don’t want the midwife to tell you ? Your trying to find other options to do what ? Why am I so confused

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I don’t want a gender reveal. I am trying to find other options than a gender reveal get together/ party.

My husband and I were also in two minds. I didn't want to find out too soon but he did so we agreed that he can find out, and surprise me nearer to the due date. Annoyingly it didn't go to plan as our little one arrived 4 weeks early 😅 maybe do that instead?

I wanted a gender Reveal but unfortunately we’re not allowed gatherings etc so when it was time for my gender scan I told the midwife to let my partner know as I wanted to incorporate the surprise factor for me to have as a memory. A few weeks later my partner took me out to dinner when restaurants were open and bought the coloured smoke cannons... so I could find out the gender and I recorded it and sent the video to family and friends.. Was quite surprised😂 can u tell?

We had our gender scan and then booked a nice dinner just the two of us for right after. We opened the envelope together over dinner and enjoyed the moment, then we text friends and family to let them know. It was still really exciting and special but suited us to be low key, especially with the pandemic! X x

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This! ❤️❤️❤️

It was honestly lovely, we were both so excited opening the envelope and our families were all texting us beforehand doing sweepstakes and placing bets 😂🥰 hope you get to do something lovely that you both enjoy! X x

This is probably controversial, but IMHO you are the one who is carrying the baby and who will give birth, so when it comes to decisions regarding pregnancy (and this is one of them), it's your call! You of course can listen to your husband and maybe can try one of the compromises mentioned here, but don't feel bad if you are sure you don't want one and decide you want to stick with that plan. I bet your husband will understand if you explain why you don't want one (and maybe suggest a compromise if you can find one that your like).

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Controversial for sure! I definitely want my husband to be included but I just don’t like parties. Especially if the focus is on me. BUT this is his child too. If we weren’t together, clearly I wouldn’t care what his opinion is but we are and he needs a part in all of it

Absolutely! Definitely true. It is his child too, so it's great to listen to him and try to find something that works for both of you, if you can find something that makes you both happy! Just saying, it's not your job to just give in and do what he wants. 🙂 It's okay to have your way on some things, especially when you're pregnant and don't need any extra stress.

I like the comments you’re getting about doing something the two of you. Like your own little party, cutting a cake, popping a balloon. Maybe he’s just looking for that “ceremonial” act of surprise. Maybe instead of reading something off a piece of paper, he’s was that element of “wow!” You could do that very small scale at home. Make it intimate between the two of you. You guys could also film the moment so that IF you ever wanted to show it to family or something, you wouldn’t lose the memory. I think it’s sweet that he wants to know and have it be a “thing”, a lot of partners don’t even care. A lot of women are doing this completely on their own. But I also see your side of wanting to keep it low-key. You may be carrying the child, but this baby is both of you. Sounds like a compromise is in order!

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I like your ideas too. Thanks!

If you don't want a big reveal, opt for setting up a picture with a coloured babygrow either blue or pink, a couple of baby accessories and the ultrasound scan and send the picture to everyone you want to reveal it to. It then keeps it personal, small and not too "out there" like an actual gender reveal x

Why don’t you want a gender reveal?

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I don’t like parties or being the focus of anything. Would skip my own baby shower, but ready for baby stuff so that’s not an opt out.

I feel this 1000% bc I’m the same way. Would it make you feel better if it was just close family? Maybe just your parents and his parents? So he can still get what he wants and it won’t be too many people for you..

Lol I don't like being the center of attention either and my bf w wants to do a gender reveal but not a baby shower lol but our best friend like we're doin both lol so idk what we gonna do

We did a revealed the gender in our text/social media post when we announced we were pregnant. We didn’t want to do a gender reveal as I live in NC and so does my husbands family but my family lives in PA. So with the distance and COVID we decided not to do a party (and that it’s not really our style). So we had them put the gender in an envelope and opened it with our step kids and then themes our pregnancy announcements to hint it was a boy

I definitely never wanted a gender reveal in the “social media video of a cake or balloon or forest fire” type of way lol. But I did want to know and my husband didn’t. We argued about it a bit and then decided to just not find out bc I really just wanted to know to start thinking of name (nursery and clothes are gender neutral af). Haha the ultrasound tech actually ended up not reading our form correctly (where we marked “no” for wanting to know gender), and was just like “ooooh it’s a girl”. We had to laugh... in the end, who cares. There’s a healthy baby growing inside me with no complications... and that’s really all we cared about at the end of the ultrasound. My little uterus bud happens to have a uterus of her very own... and that’s cool, too 😎

Neither me nor my boyfriend ever wanted one however, if he did I would have done it for him xx

With COVID parties are not a good idea right now anyways. Maybe get the poppers and record/stream Dad opening them, so the focus is on him.

For my first my husband and I went to a nice restaurant just the 2 of us. We asked if they could do a gender reveal and they said yes. So we filmed it and had just the 2 of us and it was really special❤️ We then did it later for family. I

I EVENTUALLY talked my partner into waiting until my LO was born to find out, and he now says its the best thing he's ever done. Although the whole delivery is overwhelming as it is, finding out at that moment was like nothing else I've ever experienced! I've said we'll find out with baby number 2🤣

I think one key to remember is there is no "right" way to do this. For example my husband and I have known the gender for weeks, we've already told our immediate family via text, but we might still host our own (at our expense) gender reveal something for our friends at some point. No wrong way to celebrate! I think you need to discuss with your partner what it is you both want to get out of the a gender reveal (or avoid) and then you can discuss different options of how to reach that goal. If you're trying to avoid a gathering and he's trying to include people, there are lots of online things you can look into. Check out this website! https://genderrevealgame.com/

We found out and then surprised our friends and family. It was fun for us to be surprising them. We sent little balloons that had confetti and the gender inside them for our close out of state family and then did a small get together or family that lives near us and did a smoke bomb in a jack o lantern on Halloween. Nothing crazy and it wasn’t a party specifically for that just had it set up to go off while they were here visiting for Halloween.

Sending personalized cards to family for a reveal would be cute

Maybe you could compromise? If you don’t want a gender revel just find out the gender yourself and make him cupcakes or something You could film him and send the video to family and friends🤷🏻‍♀️