My man’s sister came over about a week ago and didn’t ask me, instead just “told” my man that she was outside. She came with makeup and perfume on and carried my baby. While carrying him, she said “My baby” which gave me the biggest ick.
After she left, he smelled like his perfume - I HATED it. Actually made me mad. She never checked on me when I was pregnant and we don’t really have a relationship.
How do I tactfully tell her in the future if she wants to come over to see the baby to actually tell ME in advance and how do I tell her if she’s wearing perfume she can’t hold the baby because I don’t want him smelling like perfume (I am currently steering clear of perfume because of how sensitive baby skin is.)