Termination for Medical Reasons Support

What is the least traumatic option with easiest recovery for a TFMR at around 14/15 weeks. Based in the UK.

I’m 13 weeks and have been told my baby has chromosomal abnormalities that are not compatible with continuing the pregnancy so I will soon be facing a TFMR. I want to deliver the baby rather than surgery. I have previously had a missed miscarriages, including one at 9 weeks, and used the medication approach. It was a very physically traumatic experience (I had 2 doses of the tablets), with lots of blood loss, and it took a very long time to recover.

Does anyone have experience of both a non-surgical TFMR and a non-surgical MMC who can advise on how they differ or compare with recovery?

I send my love to everyone who reads this who has ever experienced this situation. It’s heartbreaking 💔

I made the heartbreaking decision to end my pregnancy at 24 weeks due to severe fetal abnormalities, just two weeks before Christmas. Since then, I’ve been struggling, especially while caring for my son.

This was my second pregnancy termination. The first time, it was due to T21 and a severe heart malformation. That decision, while incredibly painful, felt “easier” because the baby had no chance of survival.

This time, it was another baby girl. She had a chance at life, but it would have come with significant medical challenges—both physical and mental. That made the decision even harder.

Last week, I lost my job, boss said it was due to company’s financial struggles, which is true, but I know I was also let go because my performance declined after the termination.

I feel stuck—I can’t sleep, I can’t fully enjoy or be present with my son, and I keep worrying that I’ll never find another job or get my career back on track.

For those who have been through something similar, how did you move forward?

Hi everyone, i have been told my CVS result after 1,5 days that there was apparent T21 cells but they want to rule out confined placental mosaicism so they suggested me to wait for karyotype results. Does everyone who get an abnormal result is ask to wait for karyotype? I am wondering if they suspected CPM or is this just a standard process. If confirmed, I will TFMR so extra wait with no hope is hurting more.

Hi all,

I am three weeks post TFMR. It’s was a really fast and sudden process for me as I had found out at 23 weeks that my previously perfectly healthy baby boy was severely underdeveloped and I had lost all of my amniotic fluid meaning there was no way for him to grow to a size that he would be viable. Because it was a Catholic hospital, They had originally told me I just had to wait for his heart to stop and then have a stillbirth. However, my Doctor actually called me separately outside of the hospital to inform me of the option to terminate, however because my state does not allow it passed 23 + 6 weeks, I had to act fast. Everything after felt like a blur, my husband and I cried for days and shut our selves out from the world until I could have the D & C. Since then I have gone back to work and tried to move on, but am honestly in a very dark place right now. This was my first and only child so it’s been extremely challenging to cope with this lose. I also work a job where I am constantly meeting new people and am right around the age where many people my age are having kids. I get asked a lot of I have kids and don’t know what to say. I know 3 weeks isn’t long but it’s hard to even imagine my future now, let alone a happy one right now. That’s why I just want to know if and when it got better for you all? Any advice to grieving and coping process?