The MOM Rant

This is more about me and my ppd. I have it bad to where I cant control my temper. Im nit sure how to fix this or how to even calm down like I get this black out anger where I cant calm down. I really need advice because it causes majority of myself and my husband's arguments. Any tips on how he may be able to deal with me better would also be helpful. I don't like the strain it puts on him and my kids.

My bf had kind of been irritating me lately - he is a SAHD and by no means is being a stay at home parent easy but I think he’s spending too much time doing things that aren’t productive. He can literally sit and ply his game all day (idc if he plays I just want him to take care of stuff. He hadn’t watered our garden in a week , I had to do it. He wants me to cook dinner everyday( why !? I work 10 hour work days) he hasn’t cleaned our house it’s filthy. And he wants me to do all the grocery shopping too. I feel like he’s asking for too much and he feels like he’s overwhelmed with parenting. in my mind it doesn’t make sense because — if I’m working 10 hr work days coming home and taking care of my child( that means feeding, bathing, and playing ) when I get home. Also cook dinner every evening. take a shower, water the garden , also recently he asked me to do his hair which can take hours because I have to cut it too. I feel like I’m taking on too much responsibility. I’m already paying for everything and working overtime at work to keep up the bills. Can’t he do more like ? Am i asking for too much ?

There are soo many mamas on here that are going through similar situations. I’m reading some of your posts in tears because I thought I was alone! Having a broken heart while being pregnant, as a new mama or any other case just sucks! Some men... I said SOME men are really just shitty people and we are paying the emotional consequences. 💔 I’m not brave enough to tell my whole story but I give more respect to those who can!

My baby Joey is 6mo old and teething like crazy lately and it’s throwing off our semi-routine. He’s been extra needy and clingy and I can’t seem to get things done around the house. It’s driving me nuts!!! It’s been stressful 😓 It’s been testing my patience (I have very little of it.. I know I’m working on it😞) and I catch myself yelling at my baby. I feel guilty and so bad right after and I just cry in the other room. I had a melt down yesterday and had to call my sister for help. I feel so bad and guilty, I don’t want to inconvenience anyone or be judged when I ask for help like they think I can’t take care of my baby. I definitely have some insecurities with being a FTM I’m just trying to do it all and when I get frustrated or fall short I also forget to self-care (like really bad). It’s hard to balance it all. And on top of that I have a husband that’s amazing but I have no sex drive at the end of a long day. I’m not fulfilling his needs and I feel so bad! I really just can’t get it together😣 I just feel like I’m a SAHM and I should be able to manage it all. And I feel defeated and depleted when I fall short.

When your husband takes a nap in the middle of the day cause he’s tired, but you’re still getting up in the middle of the night breastfeeding and get no nap. Dude!