Boundaries and Toxic Family Members

I'm almost 24 years old, I've been dating my boyfriend since 8 months ago, and i only live with my mom and little sister. My mom doesn't know anything about me having a boyfriend, I grew up in a very toxic but loving family. She's a narcissist who always plays the victim when I stand for myself. She's very controlling, trying to know every single step and movement i do, and making it look like a way of protection for me and my well-being, I don't know how to tell her that im grown enough and that I also need some freedom to live my life, she's easily to get angry and aggressive she had hited me in other occasions, I'm scared of her but I feel like hide it more tume in only draining me mentally and emotionally. Any suggestions please, someone else had the same situation? Any advice will be well appreciated 👏.

Every pregnancy I realize my fiance and I aren’t compatible. He picks arguments with me about the stupidest things it’s like if he’s on his period everyday. Then he threatens to leave me. I feel like after this I might tie my tubes and I fear imma just end up a single mom eventually down the road.

I’m pregnant with my second and knowing how toxic my family is and when they say things like they would die if I had more children just hurts I’m 14 weeks and refuse to let my family know about my pregnancy. It’s just sad that the child is not born and already receiving rejection from both sides of grandparents. Has this happened to you guys ? What did you guys do?

Hi all

Not sure what I’m looking for but wanted some advise on my situation. My parents have always been quite cold emotionally and I didn’t realise how much hurt that’s caused until I became a mom myself.

My dad is a total narcissist so I won’t go into him but my mum, I just can’t understand her.

I have had four babies so far and with each child she’s never been present, there’s always been an excuse but the hurt I’m feeling from my latest I just can’t shake off.

I lived under 5 minutes walk when I had my first an she wouldn’t visit - she would only come with my SIL (who lived with them) or not at all. After my first for a little older I’d invite her For a coffee or walk and she wouldn’t accept unless I invited my SIL too - after a while I stopped inviting but it really hurt.

Now I’ve had my fourth and last baby, I’ve moved further away due to selling home but she not come to see my baby since day 2 (where she came to “see” me) and that’s it. She will send an odd message here and there saying “hi how are you” and conversation dies but no real effort.

I can’t get my head around the loneliness I feel and the mourning I’m going through for the experience I wish I had. If I didn’t message or go over, we wouldn’t see them at all and whilst I want my kids to experience their grandmas love, I am gutted that they are an afer thoguht. She’s never babysat my children, never been with them more than a few hours at a gathering and they are always asking about her and my family in general. I feel awful that this is what I have to offer them and can’t help but feel that they will be so disappointed when they realise who they really are.

I don’t know if it’s because I’m 5 weeks PP but I’m just so sad, I can’t really speak to my husband about it as he doesn’t understand her and often says just let them be, but I’m just sad. I feel so lonely and am continuously trying to fake being happy for the sake of my kids because they are such pure and gorgeous souls but I can’t help but feel so distant and incomplete.

Does this resonate with anyone’s experience and if so, how did you overcome it? Xx

Happy valentines weekend to you all. My day yesterday was okay, just another day honestly. I been feeling like my partner is being sneaky prior to. Yesterday we were suppose to attend kids birthday party but the plan didn’t work out. Instead she missed work morning and went in the afternoon for closing shift. So she went in her regular time 1pm-8pm. She said it was so busy. Mind you her location was on all day n then she text me to say it’s busy and she won’t be leaving til 10 because it’s only her and another worker with no help. She turned her location off n didn’t come home til midnight. I had a whole set up for her and our son. Honestly I’m just over it.