Toxic family

I’m pregnant with my second and knowing how toxic my family is and when they say things like they would die if I had more children just hurts I’m 14 weeks and refuse to let my family know about my pregnancy. It’s just sad that the child is not born and already receiving rejection from both sides of grandparents. Has this happened to you guys ? What did you guys do?

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I'm sorry you're going through this especially when family is supposed to help and be there for you. So I have that same issue, I'm currently 11 weeks pregnant and my husbands side of the family is toxic asf, always says passive aggressive shit all the time.. I recently decided to tell his mother and grandmother I'm pregnant, the first thing they said was "well aren't you going to get your tubes tied" hella disappointed and hella disrespectful! Truly if your supposed to be "family" has nothing but bad vibes and nasty comments my advice would be to distant yourselves, until you feel like the time is right to have them in your children's lives. The way I see it is you don't want your babies to see you upset after being around toxic family, they will eventually understand and see that you get hurt so therefore they will be hurt. I had to cut my "family" off completely bc of it... I'm sorry you're going through it it's an awful feeling. Sending good vibes your way girl!

I’m sorry 💔 I didn’t get the best reaction either. My friend was the only one who had a great reaction it meant so much to me although now we barely speak cuz our lives have changed so much

My family is not the most supportive, my exs family was so supportive to him and it amplified my hurt to not have a support like that

I do have a sister who got a bad reaction as well but as soon as my nephew was born we were all so in love and we are so happy he’s here with us today 🥹❤️

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