I'm a new mum and obviously didn't grow up in the uk. I currently pay roughly £640 for nursery fees. I'm wondering if my expenses will reduce when my LO starts school or there'll be other expenses (besides bags, uniform etc) will my expenses be anywhere close to £600 monthly?
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If they have hot meals and you don’t get free school meals, you’ll have to pay that.
Any trips that require payment
Breakfast club and after school club if needed
Primary schools near me prefer school water bottles. Plan for replacements constantly

My son started school in September. We have to replace shoes & water bottles fairly often due to wear & tear. There’s the odd non school uniform day or school trip we have to pay for. And if you’re not using wraparound care your expenses will be far less than £600. Even with wraparound care it’s cheaper than nursery - my school charges £6 for breakfast club and £15 for after school, so even using that every day it’s around £400 a month. All children in reception, year 1 and year 2 get free school meals too.

No. A lot of areas now have free breakfast clubs. Think it was £3 before. Obviously you might need childcare for after 3 o clock or school holiday clubs but we used to combine annual leave to cover that and used family as well. Trips are probably £10 per year. My daughters going on one next month for £2. Obviously you have things like comic relief, children in need, bring an item in for Xmas fayre/summer. Meals are £2.85 although my daughter is year 4 so no longer free. I buy clothes to last a couple of years although shoes are expensive!

You don't mention if you get any benefits. There is support available for people who are on some benefits. Check the websites or go to citizen's advice bureau.

If you're on UC you can claim free school meals beyond 7. Also let the school know as they might have additional benefits they do in house. The school can also claim additional funding for your child.
I just feel so fucking agitated at the moment. I have 2 under 2 and one of them is autistic. So we have daily meltdowns etc. I'm up at 6am every day and don't sit down till maybe 10pm. I'm doing absolutely everything for them & the only break I get is going to the gym but I'm out for an hour max. As soon as I'm home I'm straight back at it, I don't even have time to shower.
My partners great but I don't think he has any fucking idea just how hard it is being with 2 small kids every minute of the day, managing appointments & the house. I'm starting to resent him. I'm snappy & miserable.
I resent my dog. He stinks & keeps malting everywhere. He's old so keeps shitting in the house.
The kids have kicked off for me all morning, yet as soon as he's here its calm & I look dramatic.
I'm not enjoying being a mum cos I can't cope with the constant stress. I've got adhd and autism so I'm overstimulated very quickly.
I've had ENOUGH.
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My husband has an issue with me wearing sexy undies to work. Yesterday, I wore a thong for the first time in years because I'm just tired of my panty line showing 🙃 and oh my gosh he was very unhappy. He says that if he's not happy about it then I wouldn't do it. I should wear it at home. He says things like " men can tell I'm wearing a thong. " I don't respect him because I wear it to work, and he does not like etc. I just can't believe that it bothers him so much. I told him if I feel the need to wear it outside the house I will. It's not every time I want my panty line showing. I literally have less than 4 thongs, and only one Yesterday in years. No one sees under my clothes, so what's the issue. Please give me some advice on this? Who's wrong in this situation?
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What snack ideas would you have for a 19 month old that will keep her entertained on a 9 hour flight and will fit in these little compartments? Will take more of course.

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Almost 4 months pp with 2 under 2...i wanna jump his bones, lick his neck, rub his back to his crack (with shea butter), suck him to sleep, make him moan when i see him doing anything like cleaning, buys my pads, changing diapers, talking with me, sleeping, walking around... Existing.
Ugh been together for 8 years & married for 4. Hes a rock, my blessing & the love of my life...
Anyone else feel like that about their person?
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My toddler is strong willed. He knows what he wants and how he wants it.
Not all communication styles work with a strong willed child.
Any who, about 60 percent of the time when I pick him up from nursery they complain about his behaviour and him not listening. He is fricken 2 and half years old!
Before nursery he never had behavioural issues.
Any who I worry now they are putting this constant though in his mind that he is a bad kid.
He would say things like I'm not going to be a godo boy. Etc.
I got into an argument with my partner about reducing the days. Or even changing the nursery in general.
Am I over reacting?
What would you recommend?
I just remember being younger at schools and teachers constantly shouting or telling off the same kid. Putting this perception in there head that they are naughty, less than. I worry that this can be causing damage. Am I over reacting?
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Looking for some way to get the chaos under control here 🥲
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