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your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

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I feel like if it’s a kid free wedding it should state it on the invite / website if they have one? Me personally, if myself & my partner are both invited to a wedding & it’s kid free, I wouldn’t be attending, if it’s just me (say one of my friends who he doesn’t know like that or w.e) & it’s kid free then that’s fine she can stay with her dad - but it annoys me if I have to ask, like I think it’s something that should be stated especially if you know people you’ve invited have kids because idk about anyone else but I automatically assume my child is invited too (unless told otherwise ofc)?!

Also just to add, I find it a bit funny when people have a kid free wedding & then when you want to do something & decide it’s kid free & they now have a kid or baby it’s an issue… like I understand WHY people have kid free weddings, but then at the same time I don’t??? (SURELY, if a kid is being disruptive during the ceremony then the parent(s) have the common sense to take them out?)

It wouldn’t bother me.
I do think you shouldn’t have to inquire about it though, they should make that known well in advance.

Date night 💃🏼👠 my 6yr has been to about 4 weddings w us and he had to stay home for about 3 of them since they were kid free. I have my MIL and sisters to look after him if it wasn’t a family wedding and a friend of ours. The last wedding we went to last year it was family’s kids only and I was a cousin of the bride so he was allowed. The one before that was a friend I’ve met from peanut and known her for 2yrs and she got remarried and that was kid free except her own kids who were in wedding party which is fine by me. I just find it weird they didn’t state that on the invite sounded like they changed their mind midway lol coz the kid free ones I went to stated on the invite

What is the age cut off?

I got married recently and u accept bigger (more independent kids) and I didn't accept toddler age. I have a 2 years old and didn't want my wedding to transform into a playdate.

If you're going to age restrict kids at your wedding just have a child free wedding. Age doesn't mean anything in terms of maturity or ability to sit still/be quiet.

It’s understandable however we wouldn’t be able to come as have no one to watch our 9 year old overnight as I imagine it wouldn’t be local. If he can’t be bothered to invite family then it’s his problem.

His wedding. Not your problem. Family doesn’t automatically mean accepting any and all kids at your wedding.
My sister is engaged, and has said she’d like a kid free wedding but wants to make an exception for my daughter. I’ve told her it’s entirely up to her, if she truly wants kid free we’ll make it work, if she wants her there, we’ll make it work.

I think it should be discussed with parents at the time of invite as they need time to make plans. I think it's absolutely understandable but also the people getting married should be prepared for some people to say no because they don't have any childcare options/aren't ready to leave their child yet.

I had a kid free wedding. Cut off was 21 with the exception of my little sister who was 16 at the time.

Idk I think it depends on the invitations. I have gotten an invitation for Mr. And Mrs. X, which tells me my husband and I. I have also gotten invitations for The X family which tells me my husband, i, and the children. To further that there are usually options in the invitation that are dead giveaways. They either just say no kids under x age. Or there will be no menu option for kids. Or the RSVP will have a max wording like 1/2 or 2/2.

It's their wedding so they have every right to choose how they want to do it.

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My partners great but I don't think he has any fucking idea just how hard it is being with 2 small kids every minute of the day, managing appointments & the house. I'm starting to resent him. I'm snappy & miserable.

I resent my dog. He stinks & keeps malting everywhere. He's old so keeps shitting in the house.

The kids have kicked off for me all morning, yet as soon as he's here its calm & I look dramatic.

I'm not enjoying being a mum cos I can't cope with the constant stress. I've got adhd and autism so I'm overstimulated very quickly.

I've had ENOUGH.

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Before nursery he never had behavioural issues.

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