Nursery funding

My child turned 9 months last week. I applied for government funded hours nearly 2 months ago and so well within the required timeframe for the April term, however upon receiving my first invoice without the funding applied and having questioned this, I have now been informed that the stretched funding doesn’t start until 4th May.

Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

The government site states it should start from April 1st, and so I intentionally set my nursery start and return to work as the start of April for that reason, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to afford the nursery on my sole income without the funding

in our community

What should I do?

Are you comfortable with your partner taking your toddler out without you, a few hours from home?

My partner has been begging to take our LO to see his family 2 hours away from home without me for around a year now, but because they've never spent the whole day together without me I don't feel at ease about it. My son is abit shy until he warms up to people and my partner and his family are just very loud and energetic all the time. His family also don't really have boundaries with children and I don't feel my son will be comfortable there.

My partner also has never had to take initiative with our son's routine and our son sometimes doesn't eat very well in certain people's company. So overall I just don't feel comfortable about it.

Whenever we talk about this he makes it seem like I'm the bad guy for not trusting him to be comfortable/confident with putting our son's needs first, and doesn't seem to understand where I'm coming from. He says he understands, but then still begs for it to happen but for over the past year hasn't made the effort to be solo with our son. He's also had to work alot mon-sunday for the majority of our son's life so some things just don't come naturally to him (like understanding our son's communication), but then it's up to him to really make up for that.

They have a really loving bond and play together alot, but parenting isn't just about play of course🤣

What should I do? Allow him to take him to his parents or stand my ground until things change and I feel comfortable?

Funded hours

Does anyone know the actual eligibility for 30 hours funded childcare in UK?
I’ve read it’s if you earn 100k or less a year but I know some people who aren’t eligible for it when they earn 30k or so
Super confusing
Any advice or information will be appreciated! 🙏🏻

Did hubby stay with you at the hospital?

Just like the title says I'm just wondering if your husband's stayed at the hospital with you through birth and recovery. I'm going for my scheduled c-section and I've been talking to him about packing a bag which of course he waits last minute to do, but he also made a comment saying I just want him up my ass. I told him if that's the way he feels then don't stay because what kind of shit is that? Where else are you going to go while I'm having your baby, and going through major surgery and recovery? He actually tried to say it's my insecurities talking. Not at all. My main concern is him going to get a drink and downing it while we are in the hospital. I shouldn't have to be worried about anything, or anyone else. This shit is unbelievable to even be dealing with on a day like today.

3 years old

My 3.5 year old makes it hard to go to nursery in the mornings.
Nursery say he enjoys being at nursery.

I actually have no energy left as I’m pregnant as well.
Today first time after a long time he cried to not come out of the car.

I feel this kid is worse in behaviour.
I know he has a cold and cough.
Even if I say positively nursery time, play with friends and do fun things etc. he says no nursery.

Even he wants me to carry him and I can’t as I’m shattered.

Any advice as I’m literally exhausted and can’t deal with this everyday.

Thoughts…

My husband is going to Spain over the weekend and for a few days in the week to help his cousin with an event. I can’t help but feel jealous. I’ve been doing the nights with my 4 month old and I really barely sleep at night. I get him to help but I have to wake him up to help sometimes over the weekend. I’m exhausted and just feel like he will be living his best life and leaving me with the 4 month old and toddler. Am I being selfish

Relationship strain

Is anyone else in a situation where you and your partner just aren’t getting on?
We have just bought a house and my other half has done everything for the house buy I said if he wanted to move when baby was so small then it was all on him as bubba was only a month old when the process started, he accepted this but it’s now being thrown in my face. I have done every night feed for 8 months baby doesn’t sleep longest stretch I get is 4hrs and that’s rare I’m up 5-7 times a night and im exhausted, he never wakes and says let me do this feed you stay in bed. he’s frustrated we’re not being intimate but I genuinely have nothing left to give him come the evenings, I’m going back to work part time next month and I’ll still be expected to do all the night feeds I have told him to pick one night at the weekend to take on Ive had enough he’s said he will but I doubt it will happen. I’m honestly at a loss I really don’t like being around him at all at the moment and I’m so worried it won’t go back to how it was before or at least a new happy normal we’re so at odds with each other right now.
Please tell me it’s normal and it does get better or at least tell me you can’t stand your OH right now too 😂
Sorry for the essay