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Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?

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In yet to tackle this battle! They don’t make it easy for us do they

I used to & My husband worked standard mon to Friday 8-4 so he would do drop off and pick up. We had a flexible place at nursery so we just had to notify of the days we needed when I got my off duty

When I moved to community I changed to 8-6 my days were still flexible though. We had changed nursery by this point and she went on my 2 set clinic days and half another set day and grandad covered the rest

yes all work places have to consider flexible working now. Sadly they still don’t have to agree to the application. One of my friends had hers rejected as what she was asking for ‘didn’t fit with the needs of the department’.

My work have been brilliant and agreed to working my full time hours over 4 days and a set day off. My husbands work have als agreed to his flexible working request (don’t forget it’s not just us mums who are entitled to it!) he has dropped his hours and works 34.5h over 4 days (a longer day on my day off) with a day off that he has the kids

I do my long days on the same set days every week, whilst my husband does 8-4 Monday to Friday. On my three working days, hubby drops our daughter off at nursery at 7:30 and picks her up at 4:30. I don’t see her at all on my working days which is really hard but equally the trade off is that I get the extra days off in the week with her but also don’t lose too much pay x

Thanks everyone! This would be a brand new job not me returning after mat leave. My current work have allowed me to drop 1 day a week but I hate it there 🥲

I got a set rota 3 days a week x

I have set shifts and work on my partner's days off.

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A very autumnal pumpkin Macaroni cheese for the whole family

With added mini soya chunks and sweetcorn

Fed UP

I just feel so fucking agitated at the moment. I have 2 under 2 and one of them is autistic. So we have daily meltdowns etc. I'm up at 6am every day and don't sit down till maybe 10pm. I'm doing absolutely everything for them & the only break I get is going to the gym but I'm out for an hour max. As soon as I'm home I'm straight back at it, I don't even have time to shower.

My partners great but I don't think he has any fucking idea just how hard it is being with 2 small kids every minute of the day, managing appointments & the house. I'm starting to resent him. I'm snappy & miserable.

I resent my dog. He stinks & keeps malting everywhere. He's old so keeps shitting in the house.

The kids have kicked off for me all morning, yet as soon as he's here its calm & I look dramatic.

I'm not enjoying being a mum cos I can't cope with the constant stress. I've got adhd and autism so I'm overstimulated very quickly.

I've had ENOUGH.

I need advice!!

So, my boyfriend and I have a son together.and usually he doesn’t mind buying him things he needs like diapers and wipes etc…but recently he won’t get him anything that he needs. So when my son runs out we end up in an argument and he gets upset that he has to leave at 3 in the morning to get whatever it is my son needs when I told him days before he was almost out. I would get them myself but he doesn’t let me work because “he wants to take care of his family”. What should I do or say?

Thongs / Sexy undies to work?

My husband has an issue with me wearing sexy undies to work. Yesterday, I wore a thong for the first time in years because I'm just tired of my panty line showing 🙃 and oh my gosh he was very unhappy. He says that if he's not happy about it then I wouldn't do it. I should wear it at home. He says things like " men can tell I'm wearing a thong. " I don't respect him because I wear it to work, and he does not like etc. I just can't believe that it bothers him so much. I told him if I feel the need to wear it outside the house I will. It's not every time I want my panty line showing. I literally have less than 4 thongs, and only one Yesterday in years. No one sees under my clothes, so what's the issue. Please give me some advice on this? Who's wrong in this situation?

Toddlers nursery - am I overreacting?

My toddler is strong willed. He knows what he wants and how he wants it.

Not all communication styles work with a strong willed child.

Any who, about 60 percent of the time when I pick him up from nursery they complain about his behaviour and him not listening. He is fricken 2 and half years old!

Before nursery he never had behavioural issues.

Any who I worry now they are putting this constant though in his mind that he is a bad kid.

He would say things like I'm not going to be a godo boy. Etc.

I got into an argument with my partner about reducing the days. Or even changing the nursery in general.

Am I over reacting?

What would you recommend?

I just remember being younger at schools and teachers constantly shouting or telling off the same kid. Putting this perception in there head that they are naughty, less than. I worry that this can be causing damage. Am I over reacting?

Snack ideas for plane

What snack ideas would you have for a 19 month old that will keep her entertained on a 9 hour flight and will fit in these little compartments? Will take more of course.