Jealous of my husband

So relatable! I envy my husbands flexibility. He’s a great husband, dad, and provider, but I do feel like I carry a bulk of the load with the baby. Remember this is just a season! It’s so hard right now, but it will get better. Try to leave your house every day, even if it’s just for a walk or to walk the aisles of target. Your baby will enjoy the change of scenery and you won’t feel so trapped.

Totally relate. Just had our 3rd who's 7 weeks and struggling this time with resentment.
My husband has spent 2 days this week working on a truck he bought and then going out all day Sunday too.
I had one massage for an hour this week and felt guilty. Im so exhausted mentally and physically and resenting him because he can do what he pleases.
Yet my head is filled with school runs, nursery, feeding baby and pumping, housework, cooking and appointments.

Girl make him help more or pay for a sitter so you can have more time for you. Maybe even a gym with childcare I know those are helpful

First, take a deep breath, give yourself grace...this could be part of postpartum rage.... also acknowledged that His world has changed too & unfortunately it sounds like he doesnt get the opportunity to take 16 weeks to spend with you.

Is it possible for him to take fmla or a couple weeks of unpaid leave at all?

Also when we were gifted the opportunity of bringing life we gotta accept that we will carry more physically & mentally than our partner who did not carry...thats what i did at least that way i can keep the team dynamic and not go tit for tat because to whom much is given, much is expected

Its understandable but me and my partner have come to the agreement that neither of us have it better or worse. I always think he has it lucky because he can just get up and go to work. But he never sees his baby in the weekday mornings. He has to wake to an alarm and just leave, he doesn't get 5 mins of cuddles before we get ready etc. He knows how hard it is for me at home with baby but also if I want to, I can just chill with baby, eat snacks and relax if needed. He doesn't get to do that at work. Its important to recognise the sacrifices the other has to make in parenthood. Even if its been a tough day with baby, I get to go to the park on a sunny day and picnic in the shade while he's at work. We are jealous of their time alone at work, they are jealous of our time at home with our babies. The more we understand and respect that the better for us all x

I went out last night. And I started not only taking the baby out to baby groups at 6w but I started having drinks w friends again, getting dressed up on weekends, going to their bdays and inviting them to mine. Tell him you’re going out tonight Sat night and for him to stay home a couple hrs w the baby. And have a shower get ready put the dress and heels and lippy and on and go. Or get a gym membership at a gym w crèche and leave baby there for 2hrs a couple times a week so you can have some time to yourself. You don’t need to gym, my gf just chills in the spa and sauna until she grabs her baby from crèche

I think this is super normal unfortunately. I’m trying to avoid some of it by making sure my husband carves out time where (when he can) he takes the baby and I get to do whatever I want. Mom guilt still comes into play, but at least I don’t feel as trapped and resentful when I have alone time to just go run errands or get a coffee and my nails done.

How often are you taking time for self care? And i don't mean a shower i mean time to do something that pours into your empty cup.

You'll always have this I think to some extent.
My partner is amazing but he can still leave the house on eg his lunchbreak to get his haircut. As a mum to baby, there's no planned lunchbreak and you can't leave alone

At the same time, he's working while I'm at the baby classes or having coffee whilst feeding baby. And being covered in puke. Would I swap? No

Try to schedule in time for you whem he isn't working. Where you can shower in peace or go do something for you or just chill.

Try to get 1 evening if you can where he can guarantee he'll be at home and you can go out. (Or a few hours when he's off in daytime). Try stick to it.

Talk, talk, talk. Tell him how you feel but that you understand it's not his fault. I told my partner and he was the one who said that he gets sad because he misses the mundance day stuff when he's at work.

We are 3.5 years in with a 10 month old too and my needs and his needs and the kids needs are ever changing. Work needs change too so we have to.