Big vent!

Can you afford home help? If he’s working that much, it might be time to look at getting an au pair or similar if you can afford it, especially if you don’t have family nearby to come help out. Did you join an antenatal class? Could you ask any of the other mums in that to come mind babies while you get a few things done around the house?

Could any family come visit for a few days and help you get back on track?

I love using Airtasker for odd jobs, getting the garden ready for spring, or giving the whole house a once over clean every few weeks that I can then try to keep on top of for a bit.

Thank you for your response.
I thought to hire a cleaner once every two weeks but I don't know how he will react becauae he's a bit stingy.I will give it a try!
I recently started going to baby activities which r helping a bit and one of the mums gave me info for mums group chat,meetings etc.

Being a mum is hard with one baby let alone two!
I think your husband sounds like a child, not a husband. I understand he has work but he should also be pulling his weight with looking after his children/home.
If he can’t do that, then he shouldn’t be stingy with you asking for support to clean the house or look after the kids for a few hours.

I am so sorry to hear that and I really hope you will feel better soon. 🫂

I cannot speak from postpartum perspective yet, but I would think therapy will be helpful. I have used psychological help in the past and found it helpful for me. Please don’t feel like you have to go through this alone and seek help from professional/ friends/ family, there are services that help women to go through tough times. They might also advise on what is the best way to handle this situation.

If you need an online friend - I am happy to help!
Wishing you strength and sending you positive thoughts! ♥️✨🫂

Mama you are doing a GREAT job. You are juggling SO much with minimal support.

Personally atm I think your time and money would be better off spent on help around the house rather than therapy.

I can totally relate to not being able to rest, esp if you can hear your babies unsettled in the background. Your husband needs to spend more time learning how to soothe the babies whilst you're there so that he will be able to do it whilst you're sleeping.

Your husband sounds pretty selfish too. Yes he's working but lying in every weekend is insane when he has you, the boys and a home to look after.

I'd also recommend finding some local groups for parents of multiples!

Oh Hun. It's hard enough with one, let alone two. And your husband seems like he's not helping at all?! It sounds like you need to sit down and have a serious chat and tell him what he needs to do to help, even if it's not helping with the babies he can at least do housework, make sure you're well fed, just be there to support you in every way you need! He needs to be telt!

It will get better girl !!!!! This is the hardest part !