Post partum dad
I have a 2 month old. A few weeks ago my husband crashed out because he didn't feel like he was getting to bond with her. I started exclusively breastfeeding around that time and honestly didnt see the big deal. Baby and I left for a few days and when we got back home, everything was fine. He was extremely hands-on. He helped with my meals, her bedtime, bath, stories.....for a few weeks it was great. Then he randomly sounds depressed af. He says our lo is better off without him, he wants to sleep all day , he asks me not to watch tv then tried playing a video game. He refused to reply to me when i asked any follow-up questions. Then he woke up our baby trying to race me to the bathroom first thing in the morning . He's doing a weird mix of crying, trying, and giving up. Im starting to feel like I cant handle him not being able to handle life with baby and just want to be alone. Are there resources for men?
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Post parum depression for men is real. Contact your health visitor or GP for support.
Men can most definitely deal with something similar to ppd, as their life significantly changes too. I would reccomend trying to get him to commit to therapy as it sounds like he needs it. It's unfair to put all of that on you as you can't be a therapist and wife, and a 3rd party is much better to help with those feelings and any problems he has. It's easy for someone to see someone close to themselves opinion as biased but it's easier to listen to a 3rd party (therapist).
It's sounds as if your partner has paternal postpartum depression, and yes there is help out there for dad's.
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